Why can't people just accept that I am the way I am?

Question

Right ,I am aged nineteen and a pretty serious person , but I have had a chronic illness ( I am better now however) and two major operations and while I was in hospital I saw a lot of people dying. My life as a teenager was not very pleasant. so as a result I grew up more quickly than most people who were my gae. I am fine now and the illness has been cured , but I can not change how it has made me - I am not the most happy go lucky person out there but people keep telling me to loosen up which is very annoying.It's the way life has made me- I have no problem with it so why does it bother others so much?.

Answer 1

Hi. Having an illness changes you, and people that have never had health problems can't seem to understand that. I'm going through the same thing right now. I have a serious illness, and my personality has totally changed. I use to be very outgoing, but now i just want to be alone, and don't really feel like being social. People expect me to act like i use to, but i don't feel like that person anymore. It doesn't bother me, but it seems to bother everyone else. I've learned that you can't live your life worrying about what other people think or want. As long as you're ok with something, that's all that matters. Good luck, and i'm glad you feel better :-)

Answer 2

I am twenty and also quite a serious person. I try to countermand this by watching comedians and lighthearted, risible entertainments (Bill Hicks, Monty Python etc.)..What I have realised though is that while I may even laugh at these comics, it is shallow, lacking, void. The heaviness of melancholy always pulls me back down. It is like the superficial crust of the earth as the exterior self and underneath the convectional lava, heaviness, sadness that never goes away.You might just be "different" I suppose. Perhaps try the Myers Briggs typology. I came out INFJ and that has revealed a whole lot to me about why I always felt asynchronous..

Answer 3

man don't even worry about it.... if YOU had a problem with the way you were, then you would need to fix it... but as long as you are happy with yourself, and you don't cause any harm to others, does it matter? not really, so just be yourself! its better to be the real you, serious and negative, rather than being a fake and phoney person with a smile on all day

Answer 4

think of it like this, you were supposed to die, and possibly your family or yourself was calling to anyone for help, and look what happened here you are, now that you have that you dont realize how lucky you are, you don't respect the situation you have been in, you should be one of the happiest people in the world at this moment to have a second chance, and your dwelling on the past, move on and be gratefull because if your not it maybe taken away from you and givein to someone who deserves it more,



i know you wont like my answer but thats all i have to say to you be a little more gratefull

Answer 5

You know what just ignore them you can't change what the operation has done to you but you can change your attitude, so I guess I'm saying ignore the people.



Hope that helped!

Answer 6

huh, that's a little wierd... i wouldn't be bothered. as lng as you made me laugh and you wnet to the movies and knew how to have fun?

Answer 7

they dont understand what you've been through, so its hard for them to accept you the way you are.