I'm really sick of life? Please enlighten me!?

Question

Hey guys,

I need as much help/advice/ support as possible. And no, I don't have suicidal thoughts.. Im just feel so lost and confused as of where my life is heading to. Im currently 20 and im in college. I have yet to decide on my major and the career path i will be choosing. I guess im just too scared to make a decision as I know that there aint no going back once I have chosen my major. I have tried doing career tests, but it seems that Im even confused about what interests me.

Another problem that has been bugging me is the fact that I still cannot forget one of my ex-girlfriend after a few years. Why is this so? I guess I still have feelings for her, but on the other hand Im really sick of keep having negative thoughts about our relationship. I rarely talk to her, until recently when she started a conversation with me. I was trying really hard to forget about her by keeping myself busy with college, but i guess it isnt working anymore as im on vacation. Does religion really matter in Christianity? I still do not know why if she asks for me religion during that conversation on the net.

Besides that, I have loads of bad experiences during my teenage years. There were just so many people stabbing my back when I actually treated them as friends. Now, I have lost both trust and confidence in people. I rarely or never go out with any friends. I do not socialize. In other words, I have no life, which pisses me off.

Though its holidays for me right now, I feel really "suffocated with life". I seriously do not know what I have done so far, I just feel that Im more stressed out and restless now. Perhaps I have a type A personality? I dont really know, I would really like to go for a vacation in another country, but I cannot afford it. What else is there to do?

I really sick with my life, I do not know how much more I can take. I have survived a few years, but I do not think I can keep it up anymore.

Please help.

Answer 1

whine whine whine. every1 is miserable!!! people r mean, and unrealistic expectations set by society make every1 feel like a loser. quit crying andtrying to make people solve ur problems 4 u. girls dont wanna date boyzzz who can't handle the things EVERY1 goes thru!!!! oh poor me im 20 and dont have the entire rest of my life figured out.....

chill out ok and stay busy bein social. like magic u wont b sittin around in a puddle of tears cuz youll be living instead of wanting to die

Answer 2

Hello,

First of all, the lost confused feelings... Most people have them at some point or another. Take a step back, look at the bigger picture, and consider your options.. Also, seriously don't worry too much about the choice of major and career path, theres always chances later in life to change a decision. Sometimes you'll realise what choice you made isn't for you, and there'll be time to change paths.

Maybe take up something new, like a new hobby, or something that has interested you before, something to take your mind off everything and have a little fun. You could end up making new friends as well.. Just cos people have been mean in the past isn't a reason to give up all hope on people :] Have a little faith :)

Advice for stopping thinking so much about your ex... Meet some new people, start going out a little, even if it was just by yourself, going downtown or something, you might find some new people to talk to, etc :) Do something you've always wanted to do that you've never done =) And try not to talk to her too often, if it brings up negative feelings from the past.

As you can't afford a vacation in another country, try for a change of scene in your own country... Go for a walk and embrace nature... Theres thousands of possibilities (: Being stressed and restless maybe just means you need to get out of your head for abit, do something worthwhile, or something new and fresh. Meet new people.. Enjoy yourself.. Think that there's always someone to talk to if you need someone. (: Be positive about the future.. Its a big adventure :)

Hope I've helped a little..feel better!! xx

Answer 3

Everyone has troubles when they get to there crossroad in life, a lot of people know how you feel. But at this point it is time to stop thinking about the past, we have all had things happen in the past we regret and things that have hurt us, but now is time for the future. So forget about your old girlfriend. Everyone has to see people come and go in there life, and you are still young, you have time to find another, even though right now you probably don't think that's possible. All of my past boyfriends I have had, when ever we split, the first thing I thought was that I would never top them again, and now looking back, I cant even remember why I liked them.



Those people who have stabbed you in the back will grow up one day and hopefully have learned better by then. So if they are going to move on, you should too. Just forget about them.



Right now is time to take a break and relax, you have a whole future ahead of you so just take it easy and think about things. Whatever pathe you take, you will have good and bad experiences. So whatever you choose you shouldn't have any regrets because for all you know, the other choice could have flopped to be the worse one.



You just never know, so just choose something you love, and just know that if you ever really do want to change course, a lot of people who get a career and settle down go back to school to major in a different corse and take up something else. Nothing you do is absolute, it can all be fixed, and you should never have regrets because you just never know where the other path may end. Everything has a good side to ya know, and you have a lot of free time ahead of you.

Answer 4

i may have missed something, but im not gonna read all of that, because in the end, the answer will probably turn out the same.



that's life. everyone suffers a time of depression in their life, normally early on, and everyone gets the same idea, that they have the worst life of all... personally i can't figure out who's to blame, what's to blame.



just ride it out. their wqas oe thing i noticed in your question...



"I have loads of bad experiences during my teenage years. There were just so many people stabbing my back when I actually treated them as friends. Now, I have lost both trust and confidence in people. I rarely or never go out with any friends. I do not socialize. In other words, I have no life, which pisses me off."



i have no life, and i managed to get through it. their was a time that i thought i was going to turn insane, due to my lack of sociality. but then one day i just cae out of it, and i was fine. everyone experiences it, even if they won't admit it.



at the moment, all of my friends are talking about everyone behind their backs, and it is very annoying, but i know that even if i fall out with them, i will find new friends....



just try being less pestomistic, try listening to music, that helps, and stop thinking as much. that doesn't mean that you should become dumb, but that you should just stop thinking about everything, and try relaxing a bit...



in the end, you know the answer deep inside, it's up to you to find it.... i hope somewhee in this answer you find help....

Answer 5

i'm sorry to hear that but first off i have to make a comment about the responses you got



OMG this is the funniest thing i've seen yet the females as to my expectation are the sickest ones answering! go kill yourself what the hell you can not expect any help from females especially those kind of females i wouldn't go near someone like that with a hundred foot pole to push them out of the way be afraid i would catch something like a disease to eat my brain or something.





Now then yes Life sucks. People are the leading cause of our worlds current state of chaos and our environments destruction. First off you choose a field you enjoy at 20 years old what the heck have you done in your life to know what you like and don't say something stupid either what jobs have you had? today's schools do not teach for today's jobs they teach for tomorrow's jobs and do a poor job at that. You need to find something you like to do and expect that everyone you encounter at work if it is office will be out to steal your idea's if you are in a factory then don't worry they are to busy being in pain or being sad to care.

people back stab you because that is human nature to betray and to hurt. we are among the rarest of creatures we are in the list that kills and cause suffering for fun. so how the heck can you respect a filthy creature that does that.

now then suicide isn't good try being nice to the beasts you will see it confuses the hell out of them and that is a way of being aggressive. be nice is being mean to them. i found that out 20 years ago. when a man and 2 women cornered me and broke my ribs and busted my lip over a tablet of paper i had. i never once raised my hands to hurt them nor did i try to fight back i was hoping and praying to god they would kill me so they would go and spend the next 5 years of there worthless lives with more of there kind in prison. But when they where done i looked up and smiled and asked them if they hurt themselves while acting like the the dumbest creatures in existence. a few days lady one of the females committed suicide and the other one well she went on to prison for drugs the guy was shot in a bad drug deal.

the point is by being better than them you prove you are not as worthless as they are.

First learn your own tactics to survive and after that learn how to stand up for what you believe in without violence or aggression do not be like the rest of the human race be more than them.

Answer 6

False

Answer 7

You just need a change of scenery. Take a few days off and go on a road trip by yourself. Drive somwhere you've never been before. Dont even give youself a destination. Just drive and let your head clear itself out.

Answer 8

You must think of life as the greatest gift that your God has given you. He included many challenges along with this gift just to make you stronger at the same time, more courageous upon facing different obstacles that are about to come in your life. And remember, everything happens for a reason.

Answer 9

That is why I recommend Self knowledge to be explored

Answer 10

Suck it up or quit. These are your options.

Answer 11

*hugs*