I'M 17 and depressed??? what should i do i need help with these problems?

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I'M 17 an depressed and i need help i know its a bit long but i really need your help?
i know its depression but I'm too scared to go to a doctor, not because i think hes gonna hurt me but the fact i don't want to talk about my problems i actually hate talking about them. i noticed i was depressed when i was 14 i used to get drunk all the time whenever i could get drink even in school just to feel good and i never really slept a lot,i kept yo-yo dieting(mostly making myself throw up) i felt alone and sad most of the time and i didn't feel like doing much anymore plus i had so much stress i had behaviour problems in school-which when i got excluded a couple of times my dad beat me up and the memory of it don't fade i forgave him but still i don't like to think or talk about it-my dad is not a very nice guy.
A teacher WHO had depression himself noticed this in me after i attempted suicide a few times and spoke about it with me at first i didn't believe it but i looked it up i then realized i had teenage depression the website said most grow out of it by my current age so i didn't go to a doctor but now it's still not gone i feel very deep depression, i still feel alone and my current situation isn't making things better so i thought maybe if all my problems disappear then the depression will completely go away too.
Im in college now and i haven't got a part time job i tried looking for one but no where is hiring my parents aren't giving me money i need to buy new clothes and shoes, i ask my parents for some money they are like no get a job I really do try to the point where its making me even worst because i have to keep bearing all the disappointment constantly. Because i have no money i also have nothing to do i cant hang with friends because of this(only in college) its making me feel isolated and alone everything to do cost i mean watching TV is boring and there's nothing to do except going for a walk not only that but my college work is going down the drain im having problems with my course my attendance was really bad buts now getting a bit better but i might not qualify to move up to the next level so they might kick me out my parents said they are going 2 as well if i don't get in and i swear if i don't get in i Will kill myself i have it planned. If i get kicked out i have no where to go,i don't have a job or money might not even have college all these things keep adding to my depression i tried talking to my parents about all this but they don't care i also told them about the depression but they refuse to believe their daughters a ''psycho'' -in their own words even if i pluck up the courage to go to the doctors what if they don't make me better or give me anti-depressants what should i do and what if he does and my parents and the college do kick me out how will i pay 4 them when i have no money. suicide seems like my only option but i still have things in life i want to do but i cant if the word backfires on me......help PLEASE i need your opinions on what to do?

Answer 1

First, you are not a psycho. In fact, you are not very unusual. Many young people are experiencing the same things. So, take a breath and relax a moment while I reply to you.



Being seventeen is often like an affliction. You are going through a lot of stressful things such as school and relationships with other people in the same afflicted peer group. So, it is not at all unusual to feel overwhelmed. You seem not to have a strong family support system to help so you will definitely need some kind of therapy. A therapist is really nothing more than a person who will "have your back" while you sort things out. They do not have any answers but they know how to guide you to find your own. So get one.



Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. You are no where near out of options yet. So that is not what you need. Booze or drugs are not helpful either. They only serve to temporarily suspend the anxiety but then afterward end up causing much more. So forget those.



Read you own question and you will see that you are much too scattered. No wonder you feel overwhelmed. You need to begin by creating two piles of emotional junk. One pile is stuff you cannot do anything about. The other is stuff you have the power to fix. Then, ignore pile one and concentrate your effort on pile two. Do this and like magic, you will have cut your emotional burden in half. You are off to a good start!



Now, sort through the second pile and pick out the "low hanging fruit" or easy to fix issues. Fix them first. So, if your attendance is a problem that is an easy fix. There, one down. Next, your grades. Talk to your instructors and explain the problem and see if they can help you get caught up. Then, do it! As you get these easy ones fixed you will have more positive energy to tackle the harder ones. You will find that when you stop lamenting your situation and begin to actively fix things, you will feel a lot better.



It is a long road and it is not easy but then again, it will not always be so. Once you begin to get your life under control, you will find there is more than enough time to take care of what needs your attention. Make the right choice and you will one day look back and realize that what seemed so insurmountable was of little consequence in the greater scheme of things.



I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I--

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.



-Frost



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Answer 2

Go see your doctor, you don't have to tell you parents or anythig and the doctor can't tell them due to confidentiality.



Your doctor won't refer you to a psychologist they will arrange for you to see a counsellor who can talk to you and get to the root of your problems. If the doctor does give you anti depressants then you either don't need to take them or try them - they will only give you really low dose ones for people with problems such as panic attacks to see if this works.



Honestly counselling will help you, you won't have to pay for it either so don't worry about anything like that. They will talk to you and ask you things that you've probably never really thought about before and this will open your eyes to why you are feeling the ways that you do. You normally go once every two weeks or so and I'm sure you will start to feel better, even if you don't like talking about your problems talking to someone who you don't know often helps you open up and feel better because they don't know you and they won't judge you. What's the harm in trying if you're feeling crappy anyway? Don't blow it off until you've tried it trust me I'm speaking from experience!! Good Luck!!

Answer 3

Im 17 And Depressed

Answer 4

First of all, if you are 17 and live in the UK, and you are in any type of education you may be eligible for receiving EMA:





direct.gov.uk/ema



You may also be eligible for Jobseekers Allowance (JSA) until you find work:



www.direct.gov.uk



If your Dad is being violent to you no wonder you are depressed. What he is doing is classed as domestic abuse. Does your Mother know about this? Can you talk to someone at college? I suggest getting your money sorted at the local Jobcentre Plus until you find work. Your Mum or someone at college may be able to help. Do you have a PT you can speak to that helps with your transition?



Don't kill yourself. I personally believe in life after death and you won't be put at rest by ending your time on earth.



Take care and I hope you get well soon. ♥

Answer 5

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Answer 7

can you talk to a councellor at your college, they will of heard it all before,and there is no need to worry about what you say,it goes no further.have you a family member you can talk to ,like a cousin or an aunt.you do need to see a doctor,they can help.there is too much going on in your head,and you need to solve one porblem at a time. try writing it down, all the bad things, and all the good things.the samaritans are brilliant on the phone, you dont have to face anyone,which is a bonus,and its free.good luck and take care

Answer 8

Hey there. You need go to a doctor, the doctor will provide you with counselling. It is worth going to. Try hard to get a job, once you have a job thing will start to look up. If you want a friend to chat to i'm here, add me on msn if you like. here is my msn addy - [e-mail] If you don't fancy talking to me best of wishes.

Answer 9

I feel so sorry for you! Go to a doctor, and he'll take care of the rest. (psychiatrists, counsellor thingies and the lot). The doctor will take a written letter of your problems.

Don't worry your head about it, or that will result in even more stress....Or um...Depression...

That's the best advice I can give ya!

Best of luck! ;)

Answer 10

Go to the doctor, it's the only thing to do. He can refer you to a psych and prescribe medication. You may not like talkig about them, but that's part of the problem - talking helps.

Answer 11

I suggest telling school councilor about this.This will help.Tell them all whats happening.You must do this.You keep thing that hurt you inside it just will break you down.You can do this keep focused.Since your parents are ignoring this. They don't "get it"So intervention is needed.Please

get help honey!Also your education is vital, stick with it no matter how hard it is.Life really is hard,it takes hard work ,dedication.

Answer 12

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Answer 13

You have created an identity for yourself that gets attention, without this identity you are afraid that you will be nobody and thats far more scary so you keep adding more and more to the basket of 'You' as it has worked so far. You don't have problems at all you have an identity based on problems, if I was to wave a magic wand and take away all this you would soon create another lot of stuff.

Answer 14

stop yuor complaining and suck it yup every one gets sad everynow and then =]