My mother makes me feel worthless?

Question

I think that she thinks she loves me. And 99 percent of the time she is good to me, provides for me, goes out of her way to help me, is nice to me etc.

But for example, i bought a cd one time. But you know how sometimes they forget to unlock it at the stores? Well that is what happened. I was planning to take it back to the store so they could unlock it for me.

However,days later, I found the disk on it's own, lying on the floor, all scratched and wrecked. I found out my sister had opened it, wrecked the case, and obviously just discarded the disk, which I stumbled across.

I was extremely angry, yelled at her, and demanded she replace it. My mother just yelled at me to shut up and said "If she gives you 10 dollars will you shut up!" "You shouldn't have left it lying around!" Then she went on and on about how arrogant I am, how I don't look after myself properly, how I don't have a real job, how I make no effort to get along with the rest of the family etc.

It made me feel terrible. I then felt extremely worthless. I felt like every single other person on this planet is better than me, and I do not have a right to feel frustration etc. I am not a bad person at all, very rarely have conflicts with people outside of my family, very hardworking, have goals. I know I'm not perfect at all, and have a temper sometimes, but i just find how I am treated so frustrating, I was angry not for the loss of a cd, but just for the disrespect for my belongings. And how that turned into it being my fault, yet my mother had to go on and say what a bad person I am in all areas of life. What she said about me was either blatantly false, or a gross exaggeration taken out of context.

I was just so hurt by this, and am in need of real advice? Thank you

Answer 1

Wow....this sounds alittle like my situation.



My mom plays "games" constantly, a blantant liar and is extremely controlling. If I try to leave our house, (were not allowed to) she'll "punish" me by taking my daughter and leaving for hours or waits until the next day to do so, which means being locked outside....and later yelled at...



Also, does she take your sisters side more than you? My mom does the same and actually condones my younger sister treating me like her slave. If I try to defend myself they both gang up on me.



Its very lonely, trust me I know and it makes you feel like maybe your going crazy and are only thinking this is happening. But it is.



I suggest you talk to a psychologist about the issue and the abuse--yes abuse. Belittling you and making you feel worthless is abuse.



Good luck and if you wanna talk hit me up!

Answer 2

We all say things we shouldn't don't take it to heart.

Your mother was obviously upset about something else & lashing out t you, we all make mistakes we are human, let it go.

Answer 3

i like the answer from candy.



if it bothers you too much, just ask her as you said that she is normally nice to you!