How to stop over thinking and analysing?

Question

I have been trying to stop over thinking and analysing for a long time but the more i try the worse it becomes.Sometimes i feel so anxious that i get a headache .I have tried being friends with carefree people thinking some of their attitude would rub off onto me but nothing seems to help and i am starting to get jealous of some of my friends who seem to be so carefree and dont care about what others might say or think and just live their life in their own ways and keep doing their best.How can i be like them.I always used to be extremely self conscious since i was 14 .Though that has reduced a lot now and i feel much better ,i still worry a lot about people and my best friend sometimes gets annoyed with my anxiety and she suggested to me the 'so what technique?' and to think about the worst scanario and to ask that question to myself.A professor of mine also told me to do the same but that too doesnt really work always.Would i have to live like this all my life and how do i get myself to stop over analysing things and just enjoy life like my friends.

Answer 1

Stress is automatic but relaxation is learned.Be fully present right now.



According to Eastern spirituality, the mind is always attempting to seek pleasure and avoid pain. The mind is never at rest because this attraction and avoidance causes an unending string of thoughts. For some people, most of the thoughts are not satisfying and this lack of satisfaction causes fear and stress. The mind will never find rest through achieving more, it will only find rest through slowing and becoming quiet.



Feel yourself breathe. Be receptive to the sounds around you and sights in front of you. Place your attention on your entire field of vision. Discard any thoughts about the past or the future that may arise. In this receptive state, unneeded tension is released. Muscles soften and let go. Breathing can become slow and naturally deep.

Answer 2

You have what I call "bad thinking" ..... the first steps towards jealousy and depression. Analyzing and thinking must have a goal, an end, or a solution. You get up to a point in your thinking.... don't like the outcome, and go back to the beginning. Is like resigning from a chess game, halfway through. Never a conclusion. Thinking back wards is the answer........"Blah, blah, blah?? What is the worst that can happen?? I'll die! Not likely. What is the second worst thing that can happen? Land up as a quadriplegic......Nah! Third, fourth etc.." Result, nobody cares a damn about you and remembers you for ten minutes after you separated and until we meet again. Life is what you make of it..... analyzing and thinking... and thinking and analyzing.... when do you stop to live?

Peace.

Answer 3

Yes - it's very neurotic behavior. But we all seem to go through it. Neurotic behavior is characterized by having something unconscious which is driving your behavior - something you don't know about - something repressed and "forgotten" long ago. This is why it's hard to stop doing it. Something in your mind makes you hyper-vigilant - self examining. And of course it's all normal - everybody does it to some degree. You might do it just a little more. It can be a lot of fun do do psychoanalysis because it gives you the chance to understand that which has been "forgotten" - the clues are all there in your behavior, in your concerns, in your dreams.

Answer 4

Use the relaxation methods at http://www.drcoxconsulting.com/managing-stress.html or http://altmedicine.about.com/cs/mindbody/a/Meditation.htm

or www.wikihow.com/Meditate or the Yoga Nidra, below, and/or Tai Chi, Qi Gong, or regular yoga (asanas/body positions). Some people are still dismissive of them, but scientific testing has demonstrated conclusively that they increase activity in the left prefrontal cortex, when practised regularly, and will enable you to find a way of being; awareness, without suffering, when you need it, and is a valuable means of helping you through the worst parts of life. Learn them at least a few hours apart, and preferably on different days, in the morning, or early afternoon. Use the one you find most effective. A minimum of 10 mns is recommended; 15 is better, and 20 is ideally preferred.

Answer 5

i have found sleep works the best, but if ur like me u have a hard time sleeping bc ur worried.so when ur trying to sleep, imagine a situation u would love to happen nd push all other thoughts out of ir mind. I like imagining the guy i have a crush on is holding me.

Answer 6

i think you can do nothing on this problem..just live life as it is

Answer 7

by practising with meditation..

Answer 8

better sleep well...................