Psychology question- Would you prefer to be happy where you live with low $ or Hate where you live with high$?

Question

I don't tell my husband very often how I feel. My Husband told me this week about a job offer he received--I really wanted him to take the job- yet it is located in Detroit Michigan. Detroit seems like the worst possible place....

He had received a call from the Director of a not-for-profit in Detroit. She spoke to him about being the vp or chief operations officer of their organization.

I was so thrilled this had come up again! I was checking out houses like mad yesterday--- very excited about his possible promotion and I calculated his pay increase to be over 30k.

So last night my husband said he was happy here and we would not be moving to Detroit- I did show him the very COOL homes I found outside of Detroit to no avail.... I cant believe he would pass up that much money. But we do love where we live in North West Michigan.

This just seemed like his big break...we have been poor our whole marriage....and I am paid such a small salary in the Social service field- Thanks for the advice.
17 minutes ago - 4 days left to answer.
Additional Details
I asked him in an email today to write down pros and cons for moving and taking the job---Obviously the worst part of the promotion is Detroit...Is it as terrible as what I have read??- most foreclosures in the US...highest unemployment in the US and so on. Some of the downtown looked like a Middle East war zone- when I searched on line for photos. I have only been stuck at the airport- never been to the city. My husband was in the city about a month ago.

Answer 1

I would prefer to live where happiness dwells. Thanks for asking.

Answer 2

I know that you know these:





Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,

And sorry I could not travel both

And be one traveler, long I stood

And looked down one as far as I could

To where it bent in the undergrowth;



Then took the other, as just as fair,

And having perhaps the better claim,

Because it was grassy and wanted wear;

Though as for that the passing there

Had worn them really about the same,



And both that morning equally lay

In leaves no step had trodden black.

Oh, I kept the first for another day!

Yet knowing how way leads on to way,

I doubted if I should ever come back.



I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I --

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.

....................

But.................



As I was walking along

suddenly two paths

opened up for me:

one to the left,

the other to the right,

and quite symmetrical.



I stopped,

blinked,

bit either lip in turn,

cleared my throat and

took the one to the right

(just the wrong one,

it turned out later).



So now I followed it.

Never mind the details.

And then suddenly

two chasms

opened up for me:

one to the left,

the other to the right.

Without thinking I dropped

headlong

into the one to the left, which, alas,

just was'nt the one padded with down!

On all fours I crawled on,

and as I crawled

suddenly

two open paths lay before me.

Just wait, I said to myself,

and this time took the one to the left.

Straight into misery.

The wrong choice, quite wrong; to the right

led the True, the Only, the Great one, the

Well, at the next fork

I put my trust,

body and soul, into the one on the right. Once more

it was the other which ...

Now my pack is almost empty,

my gnarled stick, grown old,

no longer puts out leaves

that could give me shade

when despair takes hold of me.

My legs are worn down,

the stumps grumble and growl

that, no matter where I went,

it was one great mistake.



And suddenly now

two Heavens

open up for me:

one to the right,

the other to the left.





Please, play fair.



.......

Bon Jovi - It's My Life (Video Clip - RARE!!)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QWjWy287Y4s





It's My Life -Bon Jovi

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g-phHnRQbcA





Guns.N.Roses-Sweet Child O'Mine

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oobDQ0vdm8M

Answer 3

i in my opinion think of mountains are greater religious than low-mendacity factors... yet it extremely is only me :-) of course, the sea is particularly cool, too (presuming you're no longer on the Gulf of Mexico those days); I stay close to Puget Sound in Washington state, and that i like the section. nevertheless - i'm no longer a Christian, so as that would not coach a element. Christians could stay remote from Pike's top and Mount Rainier ;-)

Answer 4

if your happy with u marriage it doesnt matter where u live as long as ur with the person u love.so why dnt u give it a try u got nthg to lose with the money ul have u can come bak anytime u want.and u l have nthn to regret.

Answer 5

aiaia57? Hmmm.



Simon and Garfunkel - Bridge Over Troubled Water (Live 1969)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GYKJuDxYr3I



Please, play fair.

Answer 6

It is not a fair / correct question.



Roxette Listen To Your Heart (video oficial)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ktRsl2hAPhY



Roxette - Listen to your heart + klok

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F3hJUKraI-U

Answer 7

WHEN YOU GOT MARRIED YOU BECAME ONE IT IS UP TO THE BOTH OF YOU TO DO WHAT IS RIGHT.IF HE RESPECTS YOU HE WILL HONOR YOUR REQUEST TO STAY OR TO GO AND THE SAME FOR YOU