how can I explain my mom that it's not my fault that I don't have a job despite having a college degree?

Question

I graduated from college last year. I should have a job by now....
I can see the disappointment in her eyes :(

Answer 1

I think, I can see both sides of the matter.

You have a college degree, but have you applied for or searched for any jobs? On the other hand, it's hard to find one, but to try to is important. Nobody can get a job, if they don't even try to. part of an fight I had with my so far last gf, in 2004 was, that I didn't have a job. I said, "I'm looking for one." She said, "That's not good enough." I said, "it should be, it's more than what you're doing! You're just sitting around at the y, waiting for a talent agent or something to come along and offer you a job. But that's not the way it works. " Well, you probably get the point, of that example.

Answer 2

Did your parents pay for college? Are you still living at home? If so, it's time to fly the nest, baby bird. How hard are you really trying to find a job? Are your standards too high? Feel (and apply for) management jobs even without any experience? Maybe your resume needs to be re-tooled. I'd put some effort into it now, though, because this year's crop of new grads is about to hit the streets.

Answer 3

Just tell her all the college she payed for has left you unprepared for todays job market. Tell her that you blame yourself for taking the wrong courses, and not applying yourself, but you blame her for not directing you to make better life decisions. Then apologize for being a slacker, and go get a job. No! There is no excuse for you not having a job. I know people unable to use all of their limbs, in wheelchairs that have jobs. The reason you don't is because you won't get off the couch and apply yourself. It's that simple. Do you think you are too good for a minimum wage job? Well you are not.

Answer 4

Grow up and accept responsibility.

Jobs are available , probably not to your liking wit a "college" degree.Why not work with anything you can do ,build up your resume so that you will have some job experience to show.

Cut out the poor me attitude and have confidence in yourself. Probably it is your lack of confidence that your prospective employers see and feel why you are still without a job if you are looking.

Go back to the drawing board and take another look at your resume.

Good Luck!!!!

Answer 5

Technically there shouldn't be any reason for you to not have a job. Even if you're not working in your field of study you should have a job.

Chances are you're messing up somewhere. Maybe your resumé is poorly structured? Or perhaps you're not good at interviews. Maybe you just aren't looking hard enough. I mean, in the whole country there has to be a job out there for you. Maybe you're just being picky. Take a job, and if you don't like it, you can find a new one.

Answer 6

Show her specifically all the actions you took to get a job. People usually don't argue with facts, actions or results.



Maybe she can provide an objective assessment, or help you improve your search. If she cannot help you, at least she will realize how hard it is! (This might inject more reality into her appraisal of the difficulty of finding a job, and lead her to support you rather than express disappointment, which doesn't help).



Good luck!

Answer 7

I t's rough seeing that sad look in the eyes of one you want approval from. Like the others have said,you may need to wait tables or take a low level entry job that's a disappointment to you, but maybe not to her, compared to no income at all.Start a temporary service of running errands for people, and post it on. bulletin boards at public places or run a small ad. in local paper.Good luck !

Answer 8

Stop feeling guilty about it and keep looking for a job.

There's nothing wrong with being picky as long as you don't overdo it.You can get a temporary job and use it for income while you keep looking for the one you want. With Internet

access,there are a multitude of jobs you can apply for,sooner or later you will find what you're looking for.

I'm sure your mom only wants what's best for you,but you are

the one who has to live your life in the way you think best.

Answer 9

Why don't you have a job? You can get a job, if you really want to. Are you too proud to take a job that is not related to your degree? If you want a job, you will get a job.



As far as you disappointing your mother...well, she probably isn't. She may just want a little help from you, that's all.

Answer 10

The best position to be in while searching for that great job is already having one. Lower your standards and get a job. Any job. It will improve your resume and show prospective employers that you are willing and able to work. The longer you go with no work, the worse it looks to future employers.

Answer 11

well sometimes you just have to buckle down and take responsibility it is your fault you dont have a job cause well your not looking or trying you cant just whine about it ya have to do something about it and for the record its a shame that a 11 year old right now is having to tell you that! lol

Answer 12

you don't need a job in the field that you are trained in just get out there and pursue a job of any kind and keep "looking" for trained field while you are contributing to well being by being productive...mom is tired of supporting you??????

Answer 13

Don't explain anything ... she's your MOM ... ask her for her opinions ... Ask her for references; people at church, at work, at the gym. Since she is older than you she should have more people to "Net work with". Also, you can reach out to some of your working college buddies, and if you're so lucky, reach out to past college professors who liked your work.



Stop implementing guilt on yourself and reach for help.

Answer 14

Tell her you would quantify the saturated labour market by doing some research & compiling some data for her, but that would take time away from your job search.

Answer 15

Explain to her about the economy maybe in your field the your job doesnt have a fast growth rate

Answer 16

Just explain to her, that, God has fated you to have no job to test you. God will always be there to help you.

Answer 17

I'm sure it's your fault. Get off your damn computer and apply for jobs you lazy ******.

Answer 18

tell her you're lucky to be alive (for whatever reason), that should make her forget about you getting a job. :-)

Answer 19

Why isn't it your fault?

Answer 20

say nobody is hiring you