will i ever be happy?

Question

it feels like every time i start to be happy or feel like life is going good everything falls apart! about 7 months ago my life started to go really good i was finally like happy and felt like my life was finally falling into place and then my mom passed away and now everythings fallen apart i have no idea what i want to do with my life and im under so much stress and it just hurts im in so much pain everyday and im sick of hiding it it tryin to be strong and puttin on fake smiles im just sick of everything and i just want to be happy but at the same time im afraid to be happy cause ever time im happy everything falls apart

Answer 1

Ups. Downs. Successes. Failures. Joys. Sorrows. We understand that for life to be meaningful, we must experience extremes.

If only you could just have a little more of what you need, and a little less of what you don't need. The quantities don't have to alter dramatically; a small adjustment would make a big difference. You're not looking for a miracle, you just want to increase the amount of help you are getting and decrease the amount of hindrance. How feasible is that? You'll be pleasantly surprised, to discover that it's not so tricky at all. Or, at least, you will, as long as you don't start panicking unnecessarily.

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Answer 2

You answered your own question. You are afraid to be happy. Being happy is a choice. You chose to wake up everyday happy or sad. None of us get a free pass in life. We all have to deal with ups and downs. Right now, you are still grieving. Losing a parent takes a lot of time but it is a part of life don't let it consume you. Try finding some new hobbies to enjoy. Do things that you know will make you happy. After a while, it will start to get easier to deal with the loss.

Answer 3

I'm sorry about your Mom. You are still grieving and this is a normal process. You may want to talk to your Dr. if you feel very depressed. Anti-depressants can help. You seem to be in so much pain. I know people say time heals all wounds, and it does, but there will always be a scar. Know that your mom would want you to go on and be happy. Don't make any big decisions, though, as it's too soon. I feel for you and wish I could do more.

Answer 4

i think thats always like that for all humans one minute they fell the happiest and nother minute things start to get very bad.. people have more problems in life and stress then happines... u can never be ALWAYS happy there will always be some kind of a problem... u could be trully happy for mabey secons or maximum of hours... thats itt thats what i think there is way to many problems in life... and u shouldnt let taht get in a way of still being a happy person ... good things always happen to good people and god wont let u down... so just start hanging out with ur friends start doing things that u enjoy go out.. to museums parks go places see things u are interested in read books.... have funnnn and trust meee..... u might not be the HAPPIEST but u wont be as sad about life as u are now.. so just dont take things way to seriously dont let anyone get in a way of ur happiness.. and about ur mother.. we will all die oneday soon or later.. so make best of life...and jut try to figure out wjat u trully want in life... go to school college whatevre u wanna do... ; ] have fun and enjoy = )





good luck

i hope u get better

Answer 5

I know exactly what you mean, it happens to me also but I think that's life..you have to takw the rough woth the smooth, it's never perfect otherwise we wouldn;t have challenges & life becomes too easy.

As difficult as it may seem, keep smiling no matter what, but also accept whrn you don't feel happy, it's ok too..life has sadness & happiness..both are accpetable emotions...don't let life take your vitality way from you & always look for the positive..death of a loved one is very difficult, we have to mourn for our loss & feel our emmotions through it all but also let go when it is necessary. don't supress your sadness, but ccept it as another emotion.

Answer 6

I know what you mean, I ask my self that question very often. I won't allow my self to be happy due to the fear of disappointment. I don't want my joy to be taken away from me.I guess we do have to make ourselves be happy no matter what is going on in our lives.I have yet to overcome my fear of disappointment.