can anyone relate to this feeling of being lost and not knowing what to do with my life?

Question

so im 19, i graduated high school last summer and i just didnt feel college was right for me at the moment. but now its been 6 months and i havent really decided on any direction to go in, and i just feel completely lost, and cant even think of what it is i want in life. and really i dont feel as if my life has much purpose right now.. but i feel as if everyones just waiting on me to decide my whole life plan...and ive somewhat lost all connection with friends because they all went in their own direction...but to be honest i would rather avoid seeing them anyway cuz im a bit ashamed of the state im in.....this is kinda weird but i like to think of myself like rapunzel and im just trapped in my tower, and i make do where i am by painting, cooking, singing, sewing etc. and im just waiting for my life to begin..yeah i know its maybe a bit silly, but hey it makes me feel better.... well im just asking this to know if someone out there feels the same way. thanks.

Answer 1

You know, I feel the exact same way right now. I started college this past fall planning on being a CS major, already accepted into the program and everything. And then I failed my only 2 CS courses. I stepped away from it and I realized just how much I really didn't like either class, and how I can't imagine myself going through a whole major like that. So yeah, I feel really lost right now; most other majors simply don't interest me. I tried to convince my parents to let me do music, but they're very practical and made me really hate the idea of doing it. I don't have a clue, and I've been thinking so much about it lately. Maybe try going to career counseling? I'm gonna try and do that.

Answer 2

I'm alot older than you and in the same position. Some people will say you are young, relax, and take your time. I suggest if you cant find something you want there is no shame in going the practical route and thinking "what can I possibly do or learn to do that is profitable?" I know Americans love the whole "chase your dream!!11" thing but if you dont know what your dream is or have no big epic dream to chase (not everyone does) better to at least work on being able to be self-sufficient. Nothing wrong with being practical.

Answer 3

It could be that you are a late bloomer. Sometimes, you don't discover the direction in which you want to go until later in life. Don't feel trapped or feel like you are going nowhere. The singing, painting and cooking could actually help you discover what you are good at or what you enjoy doing in the long run. Are there any other hobbies you currently enjoy doing? Those could also be clues to possible directions to take in your life.

Answer 4

Welcome to life in your early 20s. Even if you would have stayed in school you would still feel this way. Although everyone expects you to know how your life is going to turn out you don't need to. Find a job work at it and figure out what you don't want and don't like and go from there. I found it easier. Also don't avoid your friends if there is one thing I learned after a night of drinking with them we were all in the same boat. One thing I know for sure is that you can't sit around waiting for life to start you just have to do it. It becomes life later.

Answer 5

Go to College and a whole new life will start for you. Good luck