What Do You Tell a Friend Who Is Starting to Think That Everyone Is Against Her?

Question

She started working where I do a few months ago. No I don't want her. She just makes me smile. She started being very friendly to everyone. She is one of those affectionate Latin women. Now I think she is blue because she isn't perceiving her affections to be returned. How much could race or nationality have to do with it? I don't know. She probably perceives something of the sort.

Answer 1

Tell your friend, the world isn't friendly to anyone. Be it the President or Mother Teresa, everyone ends up being abused. So, stop bothering about other people's differences. Plus, why do you need everyone to be with you? For such a strong, compassionate, and friendly woman, only her self-confidence and billion dollar smile is enough. Much before you know it, all those beasts against you will crave to be in your shoes to learn your wonderful style of handling things. So, smile...life is to short to frown!

Answer 2

Why do you think she perceives that?

I think most everyone is guilty of stereotyping others in one way or another (e.g. "those affectionate Latin women.") Whether or not people in your workplace carry prejudices based on these stereotypes is something I can't know... But I have had experience (as an "uptight WASP-y chick")in groups of diverse people where everyone had a different expectation of acceptable behavior based on their upbringing. Your friend may find that the people in your workplace seem cold and unfriendly, while your other coworkers may find her gregariousness to be a bit much. There are several movies on the subject. If they are to be believed, in the end, everyone will come to recognize a sensitive or courageous or caring side of each other, and a wedding of some sort will ensue.



(However, if you are wondering if her paranoia warrants some kind of diagnosis, that's a whole other story altogether...)

Answer 3

Every time someone does something that shows they are not against your her, point that out to her.



Cultural differences may be the reason for her unhappiness. But that's only if she feels the same not only at work, but also in the street, and everywhere else.

Answer 4

first of all be real friends not two faced, don't criticize her for what she is or race latin has noting to do with it, treat others as u want them 2 treat u

Answer 5

culture has so much to do with it (but kind words mean so much as well). how this person was raised will trigger emotions and responses to things differently than others. things that they have been through will cause them to react differently and even take things the dreaded "wrong way". but just be patient and show her how much she means to you, be kind. talk things over. good luck!

Answer 6

comfort her. make sure she doesnt think about these stuff. i do this all the time. i help my friends with their problems all the time. so just comfort them and make sure they dont feel unwanted

Answer 7

I feel that she is lonely, she just try to make friend, try to talk with her, try not to judge her before you understand her. cheers

Answer 8

the whole world is agianst you man!!!