Please Help!!! I Have Serious Jealousy Problems!!!?

Question

Well, I moved to Canada about a year ago, and ever since then I have been experiencing the horrors of high school. I have this friend, who is perfect in every single way imaginable, and absolutely flawless, inside and out, while I am just hideous! I am horrible to look at, and I obviously have a bad spirit since I'm so jealous. My friend is gorgeous, smart and gets amazing grades, has a lot of good friends, has a wonderful talent in singing, never has anything bad happening to her or gets embarrassed, all the boys in the whole school like her, and, well I could go on for hours but you would think I am pathetic (which I am). As for me, I am ugly, I'm stupid and failing school, I have no friends (she is just a girl in my class who hangs out with me because she feels sorry for me, she's not a REAL friend), I have no talent, bad things are always directed at me and I'm always getting embarrassed, and all the boys in the entire school think I'm a total dork. I have no confidence, and I am totally shy with no life. I need SEROIUS help! Please tell me how I can deal with jealousy! (And don't tell me to feel happy for her, I've tried that, but it hasn't worked) I ALWAYS believed that there was no such thing as a perfect person, but I guess I was wrong...please help before I commit suicide...

Answer 1

There is so much information out there that will help you. It sounds like you are really down on yourself. I am happy you added the thoughts you have about yourself that bring on the feeling of jealousy. I think you already know the challenge you face, as you listed the effects of this cause so nicely. (I am ugly, I'm stupid and failing school, I have no friends, I have no talent, bad things are always directed at me and I'm always getting embarrassed, and all the boys in the entire school think I'm a total dork. I have no confidence, and I am totally shy with no life.) I have your answer, but it is not a quick fix.



Learn to love yourself!



I know this is not new information, and chances are you already knew the answer. Perhaps your question should have been: How do I love myself?



http://www.abundancetapestry.com/how-to-love-yourself-in-17-ways/

Answer 2

i no how u feel. its a terrible feeling but everyone has different talents. go talk to a counselor! they helps so much. i actually am diagnosed with depressiona dnd they really do help a lot. dont stereo type them. its hard to tell someone over typing but just know that u ARE worth it. i am the type of perosn who cares for everyone and i think thats wut ur frend is. im told that im gorgeous and popular and a jillion guys like me and i have beautiful voice in singing (alto btw) and anyway. i dnt beleive any of those. if u are told anything good about urself, beleive it! bcuz ppl wud only tell u those things if they care and only if its true. depression hurts. like suicide is the only way. but its not. it wud hurt the ppl who really care about u (the resason why i dont do it). as for ur "jealousy", i think u shud fond more good things about u. ask ur family the good things about u and just try as hard as u can to see at least something good about urself. even if u just see the little things like ur handwriting or something. look for the little things. find the things that make u feel good and express them more. also if u become more social it helps a lot. just at least smile to someone it helps u and the person! and give compliments to everyone. if u like their earrings or something tell them that!!! good luck!!!

Answer 3

everyone person has a talent because there is only one of them in the world who would know how to do what tht special talent is. next the girl ur talking about probably has insecurities too so shes not completely perfect or maybe she has some weird fetish. don't commit suicide tht would not solve anything and would make it worse for u and ppl who do care about. hope this helps

Answer 4

The sad thing is, in situations like these, there IS nothing to do except to make friends. I know this is a terrible thing to say, but you won't get through this without friends. I have a friend whom everybody likes also. He's athletic, and goes to all the dances, girls swarm him, bla bla bla, whatever. The funny thing is, he hangs out with me. And if you're "friend" isn't hanging out with you, inviting you to do things, then she's not really your friend. If you're only a freshman, there's still time to make new friends.



This also sounds kind of pathetic, but you could just ignore her and act sad instead of trying to be her friend. She'll understand that she's taking you for granted.



Hope this helps. Please don't kill yourself. Suicide is not painless.

Answer 5

unknown ji. age 20 je ek aisi umar ka pl hota hai jisme kuch b na smajte huye hum smjhte hai humse wise koi nahi sirf hum hello satisfactory hai. mai b 20 12 months historic hun kl 21 saal lagne vaala hai pr jealousy aj b mere rom rom mai smaai hai kya karun mai to khud is jealousy ka marizh hun. pr zindgahi hai jeena hai. ab jo hona tha ho geya goli maro ab baaki ki existence b sochne mai nikaal do ge toh fir jeyoge kab.ajkl meri aur se koi jeye ja mare mujhe kya sb to bas dard daina jante hai hume idiot bna kr hasne mai unhe mazha jo aata. yaar tu ash kr choor jo hua bs aage kisi ok chakr mai na parrna.