Why don't I enjoy things like a normal teenager?

Question

I find that some of the things many other teenagers find enjoyment in- such as good grades, winning sport games, spending hours with friends, video games, etc., just doesn't give me that much enjoyment that people say it gives them. The only things that make me happy is my intermediate family, helping others, and listening to music. For some reason, all those other things just lead me to wonder why I spend such a long time doing that. Those 3 things I mentioned seem to be the only things that I can feel happy in. It is next to impossable for me to open up to others, so I really don't have any friends. I have plenty of aquantinces, but just no one that I would call a friend. And I love helping people, but I have no idea if there are any volunteering things around here. I also do enjoy learning, but that doesn't give as much of an impact of those other 3 things. Does anyone feel anything simular? Is this normal, or is there something wrong with me? How can I be more normal?

Answer 1

Was the same here. Drugs got me out of it but screwed me up worse than in the first place. Touch of depression, and a little disallusionment. First off just relax, life seriously isn't that serious. ha ha word play. If your looking for things to make you happy just keep looking you'll find something eventually. And that you can name three distinct things that you enjoy is a bonus, at your age I had one sometime two things that let me cope with being. If you want to have close friends you have to let people into your life, hang out with them, tell them the things that are going through your head, it's your decision to do this. These are the things that make people close. And as long as there is a nursing home in town there is volunteer work.



YOU ARE AS NORMAL AS THE DAY IS LONG.

But you have to live outside your head. Use your voice, use your body to make things, take up art, you really like music?

Try making some.



But above all, just have a good time, don't wait for it to come to you. Do it for yourself





Beverleighanne, that was a douche to thumbs down your answer, your answer was pretty good, so I gave you a thumbs up.

Answer 2

There's nothing wrong with you. The fact that you actually get satisfaction from helping others really makes you an exceptional person.



You can't decide what you like. Period. You can fake it... but that will just lead you to more and more disappointment. I suggest taking those things that you enjoy and filling your time with them. There are things to volunteer in EVERYWHERE, you just have to look for them. Try Habitat for Humanity, thats a personal favorite.



Your interests really sound like you're more mature than other teenagers. Trust me, when you get in your twenties nobody cares about hanging out at the mall or riding around town... let alone who won homecoming or what level you got to on Halo. When you get past a certain point in life you really don't focus on anyone but close family and a few select friends, so don't worry about it. Family is the most important thing in the world and there is nothing wrong with wanting to spend time with them instead of some kid you won't know in a few years.







AND i get a thumbs down from some douchebag... how wonderful the world is today...

Answer 3

Different people get enjoyment out of different things. Being happy with your famioly and with music and helping people sounds like you are still a good person - certainly those things are more important than video games! If you want to help people more you can find places to volunteer. Maybe you could ask your teachers if they know a good place to do volunteer work. Maybe if you are volunteering you will meet other people who also like doing the things you like and you will make a real friend.

Answer 4

omg i ask myself the same thing! i thought i was the only one!

those are pretty much my top 3 things too. i too have plenty aquantinces but i always feel i don't have many friends. i have one really good friend. family is everything to me and music is really what i enjoy most rather then everything else people do. i move to much and i don't like drama so now i home school for high school and take classes at my local college and for some strange reason i feel more in place there. it may be because we're more mature and not into all the high school bull sh*t like every other teenager. but truth be told even the people you know in high school probably won't be in your future...



nothing is wrong with you! :]

Answer 5

That's funny because I think the things that make me the most happy in life are definitely my intermediate family, helping others, and listening to music. In that order too!

I'm 25 and I bartend so, bar tending makes me happy.

You seem really intelligent so just keep in mind that you will go far in life while all those people who are worried about winning sports will end up with broken dreams. I never cared about getting good grades but I'm a senior in college as a Psychology major. I'm doin it... so can you trust me.

Answer 6

Its no big deal. I was the same way when I was in high school. I would keep to myself and to my close family. I liked to learn but just didn't like school and dealing with those people. People said I was antisocial and that I should get out more. Well I am now about to be a junior in college and am now having the time of my life. I now have friends who are also crazy about music and were considered to be the same as me in high school. It is just that you can't find anyone who can relate to you. You just have to give it time. Its better to do what makes you happy and not what makes you look normal to others. Im just starting to open up easier to people and find it easier to make friends. You just have to give it time. You are normal.

Answer 7

I had a lot of friends that did it when I was in school, personally it grossed me out...but some think it is funny. I would at least tell her you think it's not normal...but technically it's not punishable. Or you could block the website.

Answer 8

Try not to worry so much, everyone likes different things. You sound like quite a caring person, perhaps you would be interested in joining something like St. Johns ambulance, you can meet tons of new people there who are all interested in caring for people. I used to be really shy and find it hard to talk to people , I also used to wonder if I was really weird for not likeing the same things as other people but when I joined st. johns I became more confident, It is full of people just like you, people who care about their family and want to learn ways to look after them.

Answer 9

I used to feel like that at your age but don't worry too much about it. First of all, let me tell you that I took me a very long time to understand it but here is the deal; be happy! if those 3 things that you enjoy doing make you happy, so be it. Worry about the things that you have control of, the rest, there is nothing that you can do about it. Be yourself, dont think about it too much. And BTW, what makes "them" normal?

Answer 10

there is nothing unusual about that it is completly normal. you just have your differences and there is nothing wrong with that. Just keep doing whatever makes you happy because in the long run all those other things wont matter to you if you were not happy doing them. If you do want more "friends" try talking to people and find people who have similar interest.

hope everything works out=] !!!!

Answer 11

What's a normal teenager? Perhaps because you have matured too fast. That's what my folks used to say about me. In my teenage years I always preferred the company of adults and really much older folks. I don't know how to name the phenomenon, but I just couldn't enjoy hanging around those of my age.

Answer 12

there's nothing wrong with you at all; you just march to the beat of your own drummer. so many people nowadays are afraid of being different and give in to conformity. don't follow them. be yourself. you sound like a really cool guy who is simply more mature than other people. try talking to your acquaintances about music and stuff. get involved at volunteer places where there will be people of your own age. join a school club so you can meet people into the same stuff you are.



you already know who you are. try not to be afraid of it.

Answer 13

Don't worry this is normal. That is just your personality. I was the same way and is some ways I still am. You should think about joining the military when you are old enough. that is what I did. I joined the Marine Corps. It gave me time to figure out myself and the world around me.

Answer 14

I was like that too... but suddenly something happened to me and I changed. I used like exactly the same things as you! But maybe in Grade 8, I began joining sports teams... then in grade 10, I began working like crazy on raising my marks... And now, it's all completely different for me! I mean, maybe it's the same thing for you... It may all be just temporary!

Answer 15

dont worry bout it dude, just be yourself you dont really NEED to enjoy those things those are just the things AVERAGE teenager enjoys, i enjoy everything you mentioned and i also enjoy the same things you do, if you really wanna do something diferent i suggest doing some outdoor activities such as soccer, football, and just going out, make friends and stuff.

Answer 16

Yeah, I think we're kind of on the same boat here.



But don't worry, things will change, and you'll find other people that feel the same way as you do.

They might be good at soccer, and they might have loads of fun at their keg parties with their obnoxious friends, but at least you have your intelligence and creativity.





P.S. You should add me on Myspace.

Click on my name and you'll find the link =]

Answer 17

The teenage segment of life is awkward for everyone. We can't all be cool. We can't all be the best.

You have given this some thought and, therefore, you appear to be ahead of the crowd simply because you care about your world.

Answer 18

i don't feel simialar but i have a friend who feels that way. he's 15 and a great guy. He's good to be around and he sometimes comes out with us to parties but most of us like him. you are not different. If somebody thinks there's a problem with you, it's their problem, not yours.

Answer 19

Omg i find enjoyment in things susch as syudying good grades and homework to dont worry it will pay off when you have a great job and your rich!!

Answer 20

That's because you're probably introverted. Do some research on your gift:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Introvert

Answer 21

I feel the exact same way... I just try to be proud of it because it's who I am... we're all different... be proud of who you are!

Answer 22

your probably better of not knowing anyone cause people are assholes...normal is what you are to yourself...not what everyone else does

Answer 23

Everybody is different and there is nothing wrong with you being different.

Answer 24

Stop thinking for yourself.

Answer 25

You're fine...



No worries...



To each his or her own...



That's what's known as...



"Your Unique Personality..."

Answer 26

You sound like you have clinical depression I would seek help from a professional

Answer 27

You're normal.

Answer 28

Are u emo?