Is meaningful life possible for him?

Question

Is it possible for someone to have a meaningful and enjoyable life, if that person never received love by a single mother parent (only materials things given), abused sexually by an uncle, traumatized/peanalized verbally and emotionally by an entire community growing up? (because the person was the only foreign person and everyone else were Japanese in the 70's, growing up, was laughed at, teased, abused verbally and emotionally on a DAILY bases, thus building up nothing but fears without learning anything about life. He said Japanese people are not welcoming of foreigner looking Japanese in the 70's, often said imagine if you are a black person living in ALL white community with you the only different one.

Ever since He came to the States at 17, I have know him and he has been struggling with depression since, never be able to focus and he didn't seem to be able to keep a job, because of the illness. Last month, he lost his home where he spent the last 25 years of his life, he says he had no money saved up, no career, lost friends, lost everything. He has to start life all over again. He recently went to Japan as he had no choice but to move in with his aging mother (only surviving family) He said all the childhood memories haunts him at night in addition to being depressed, just being in the country. He haven't spoken Japanese in 25 years, have to look for a job to make a living, competing in a market with people who had been living here and building careers. Because he has no work experience in Japan, no one wants to hire him.

What advice would you give to someone like him? How can I encourage him?

Answer 1

Yes it is possible, but he needs to recognize that happiness comes from serving God. He can feel valued and have high self-esteem when he learns that the Creator of the universe, his heavenly Father, wants the best for him individually and wants to see him succeed. Psalms 27:10 says," In case my own father and my own mother did leave me, Even Jehovah himself would take me up." Furthermore, having a relationship with our Creator is so wonderful because no matter what happens, we will always have one person in our corner rooting us on to make the right decisions.



However, our faith must be based on "accurate knowledge." (2 Peter 1:2) One reason people feel that they cannot draw close to God is because they misunderstand why He allows us to suffer, so they feel He is hardhearted. In addition to that, religious leaders tell people that God causes people to die because He needs them in heaven. They also avoid answering heavy questions by telling people that God is a mystery and we can never understand him. The Bible actually says theses things are untrue. To learn what the Bible really teaches, you can read a free book online by the same name at http://www.watchtower.org/e/bh/article_00.htm

Answer 2

Jennifer: Yes, he can overcome what happened in his past and overcome his current situation... but given the situation he's in (no money and no skills), looks like it will be very, very, VERY hard to accomplish. Without money he can't pay for a therapist or even an Internet connection.



Jennifer, are you friends with this guy or only an acquaintance? Because if so you should try to help him out. A bit of cash for a therapist, a bit of advice, a bit of emotional support... whatever you can provide to him. Let him know that he's not alone... but that at the end of the day, only HIM is responsible of turning his life upside down. Try sharing with him these resources:



http://stevepavlina.com

http://celestinechua.com



Hope this helps :(

Answer 3

Give him complements. He should talk and find benefits from his mishaps.