I'm 17, in highschool- Is it normal to feel kind of empty and distant at times?

Question

Each day is dull, none of my friends have the same classes as me or the same lunch period as me, I just go to school, do lots of work, go home Rinse and repeat.

I look around seeing everyone around me talking, laughing "Guess who's going with so and so" and all the crap and I feel kinda distant. All this drama is so stupid, So many girls seem so shallow it's all about getting a guy to get high with or have sex with and all this crap.

Would you believe that not for a single day in my life have I ever been involved in any highschool drama? No one knows me, yeah I guess this is kinda normal but still what's up with all this stupid drama it seems more like stress then fun to me.

I never had a girlfriend because of this, I don't mean to generalize all girls out there but from my experience in highschool a large number of them appear to be shallow ,,,

Well I'm not one to follow society's norm I walk my own path basically I march to the beat of my own drummer just because someone thinks its cool to dress so and so way doesn't mean I'm gonna copy.

Life does feel kinda empty because it feels like it could be so much more- I'm always thinking of the "What if's" like what if I was more social, What if I expressed what was on my mind more often...

What would my days be like IF i did that... To be honest, I think of this at least everyday and as I go to bed tonight sadly I don't feel like I really accomplished much, oh well... Distant, empty and sometimes even a little lonely (Although I hate to admit it) is how I feel just about right now.

Answer 1

Wow, that is very deep question that most 17 year-old guys would not even think about making public. I can tell you from experience that more people feel this was than you would think. The truth is that these are very normal feelings for anyone and the age part simply magnifies the issues. The only thing that would be a concern is if there is nothing that you seem to find passion in. Many people are introverts and actually prefer time to themselves, so don't think that there is anything wrong with being alone. I sometimes strive to find that time, while at other times feel like I just need to be around people. In your case, don't be afraid to find something that you like that can be done on your own. Many times if you start to get down on yourself, you lose interest in other things, so it is important to snap yourself out of it. I can tell you that at this point in my life the one thing that I have found helps me is to go to a movie by myself. I know several people that give me crap about it, but it gives me a chance to just hang out and think.



In response to your part on girls, don't worry too much about high school. The truth is that the only thing you are truly missing out on is girls that will not be very independent and will probably not be emotionally ready for a serious relationship. While that might not be what you are fully looking for, judging by your question, you will be interested in finding a women who is intelligent and comfortable being open, and that will take a lot of time to find, but it is out there.

Answer 2

If you can imagine it, you can make it reality. The way you're looking at the world is too serious imo. Take it easy and relax, try to enjoy the small things and concentrate on yourself. Once you respect yourself others will, and you will see that life shouldn't take so much though. They call it the "law of attraction", the way you look at the world has a real impact on what the world is to you. So stop being cynical, high school is full of lame people and attitudes but that shouldn't get you down. Stay positive.

Answer 3

wow...ur sorta like me.

yea i understand all of this crapp, im 16 and this stuff happens constantly at my school. all the chics care to much about wat others think, the guys r like...idk....blah....

and even w/ friends its sorta like your in a different world or something. like all these walls barricade you from ever entering their world. and you find urself saying stuff like, "only if i was..." or "if i had done this or said that.." and a lot of "maybe..." ....it sucks.

and for me i try to wonder how it would be like if i was more talkative and social, but im not like that. wish i was more simple minded, not someone who thought so much that i ended up over reacting everything and totally landing myself here. thats what thinking too much does to you though, you end up realizing unecessary things like how much of a failure you r or something...



but w/e...

now to the present..



i've realized that everyday shouldn't be like the last, that you have to do what you can to change it. you can sit back and say "this is the best my life is gonna get..." and really persuade urself..or you can try to change it. i mean, only YOU can change ur life.

Answer 4

This is perfectly normal. It sounds as though you might be a bit more mature than your classmates, so hopefully they will catch up in a year or two. Just know that you are perfectly normal.

Answer 5

Welcome to life.



You'll find, it is what you make it.



You have to be responsible for yourself, and your life, and your own excitement. Depending on anyone else to do it can often lead to trouble.