How do you stop worrying and focus on more positive things?

Question

I think if I can get a good answer to this, it might help in various aspects of my life...

For the most part I always thought of myself as a pretty rational person. Not only that, but more laid-back, easy going, and mostly optomistic. Its a little bit easier to be just that in terms of other's lives though ie; giving great advice etc, but somtimes I wish I could take some of my own advice!
Im not sure where this really came from, but its certaintly easier said than done. It seems like I went from very optomistic to very pessimistic in terms of my own life view. I constantly worry and stress over things I cannot control and I do it even more with things that havent happened, I just act like they will or are happening without my knowing or any proof of it. Its almost as if I put things in my own head or think about things so much that eventually the bad things WILL occur unless I occupy my mind with different but more positive outlooks. Conversely, and as countertuitive as it my seem, I feel like that if I do not acknowledge the bad things, they will happen unbeknowst to me which in turn will make me look like a complete idiot.
I like that I can analyze things and think up so many different possibilites, but why always such negative ones? In turn, I think this has really down played my confidence and self-esteem. How can that be, please explain. Its like this severe paranoia and anxiety that something bad is happening at any given second and it makes it impossible for me to concentrate on virtually anything else. Im afraid this may seriously hinder my grades and cause worse emotional breakdowns. Ontop of that, I feel like my heart is always pounding, Im about to vomit, and my eating habits are really unhealthy because of it. What can I do to help myself out of this rut?

Answer 1

Hi princess..



Worrying can be helpful when it spurs you to take action and solve a problem. But if you’re preoccupied with “what ifs” and worst-case scenarios, worry becomes a problem of its own.



Since worrying is just for the purpose of coming up with solutions for potentially unpleasant situations, the way to get over it as fast as possible is to focus on just that! Instead of turning the situation over and over in your head, only think about it long enough to identify the issue and come up with some possible resolutions. Once you have one, just pick one that works and focus your attention on something else....So to stop worrying:



1) Identify the issue you are worrying about

2) Think of resolutions quickly

3) Pick one and stick to it.



Remember -- you only get one life and one chance.

Make the most of it. Stop defeating yourself, stop

limiting yourself. Create all the success you want

and deserve in life.



Hopefully, these three steps will lead you on your way to a happy and stress free life!



Wishing you sunshine, love and laughter. Not just today, but all the days after xx

"LIVE,LOVE,BE HAPPY AND *SMILE* EVERYDAY..!!!"

Answer 2

I know what you mean. I was talking to someone here about focusing techniques and meditation I use for myself when I realized that I was not using my own advice and was actually getting kind of down. That's when I did take my own advice which I will share with you. It works for me! I do a breathing exercise, slow deep breaths in through the nose and out through the mouth. Breath very slowly concentrating on the air filling your gut/diaphragm. Once you have all you can hold give it a few seconds then expel it forcibly the first 3 or 4. (cleansing breath) Now as you inhale picture energy forming in your belly which you channel through your body as you very slowly exhale. Sometimes it's to the body in general and others to specific parts or for relaxation picture it going to and relaxing you toes, ankles, calves etc. until you have done your entire body. I do this when there are to many negatives running rampant in my mind and it often gets me back on track. The sub conscious can make bad things happen (self fulfilling prophesies) but managing and controlling even balancing your own body energy, mind and body will often put you back on track. Good luck and feel better. Perhaps you will heed some of your own good advice?

Answer 3

What works for me:



Be prepared for each situation you are in. Be ready for it.

But remember that everything happens for a reason, and if it happens a certain way, then it was supposed to.

There is no such thing as luck. It's a superstition, like horoscopes.

Things are not pre-determined, but our actions dictate the results. So think ahead.

Answer 4

Do things. Exercise. Socialize. Get out of the house.



I'm not implying anything, these are just things I would do.