What's the point of being in a relationship?

Question

Is it because you want someone to love you?

It seems kind of pointless from my point of view. Most guys and girls get into numerous amounts of relationship in their lifetime. Most don't even get married, they just hop from one guy/girl to the other. What's the point of doing all of that? People are always complaining about heartbreaks. Than what's the point of getting into a relationship if you're not even emotionally ready for that? Do you expect to stay with that person forever?

I've never been into a relationship, but I'm going to take a guess why the two genders get into a relationship.

Most man probably get into a relationship to have sex. After they get what they want, they'll leave. On more rare occasions, they'll get in a relationship for the woman's money.

Most woman probably want someone to love them. Few of them will probably be in a relationship for the man's money.

After they get what they want in their relationship, they'll just leave. If they are dating for way too long, they're going to call an end to their relationship. What's the point of being in a relationship in the first place?

Then there comes marriage. Some people get married, then they divorce. They promised they'll love each other forever, but then "things" starts to change. Even if they stay with each other for the rest of their lives, they'll eventually die. So what's the point of all of that to begin with? To find happiness in your life?

Humans are suppose reproduce like every other species on this planet. Most of the time, they are not in a relationship to do that? Shouldn't reproducing be apart of a relationship? If that's not your goal, then why are you in one? I'm not saying you shouldn't be in a relationship for emotional reasons, but even that seems a bit pointless. Over time, you'll feel different about the person, then you're just going to breakup with them.

I know it's described as a wonderful feeling when you're in a relationship. What will happen when it's all over though? You'll just become depressed because you felt like you were in love with that person. Then you're going to forget all about what happened in a previous relationship and move on to another one.

With all of this said, it seems like people get into relationships because they are afraid of being lonely. It doesn't matter what gender they are, that's an innate fear for most people. They get into relationships to fill that empty spot. It's all pointless though. You fall in love with the person, you guys break up, then you're all depressed from it. After awhile, you'll feel more lonely than ever.

Can anyone give me a reason to actually be in a relationship? Everything seems kind of pointless. To be honest, I find it disgusting at times. But that's just me....

Answer 1

relationship doesnt exist.. its just mindtricks to get us to mate

Answer 2

It's not the destination, it's the journey. I've had numerous failed relationships, but I am so much wiser because of them. As much heartbreak as I have endured, I have experienced so much more blissful happiness, with the same people who have broken my heart. I have been married to my college sweetheart for three years now. Love is a beautiful thing, but not always pretty. Humans are social creatures, we do fall in love with one another and most of the time it ends. We do feel lonely when that happens, but we pick ourselves up and move on. That is why it is so important to not put all of your effort and energy into a romantic relationship. It is very important to have friends and family that are a regular part of your life.

From your question you sound somewhat jaded by a previous relationship. You need to focus on the good things that you have taken from past relationships, learn from the bad, and use the whole experience to live better.

Answer 3

You have a very interesting perspective on relationships. A lot of what you have written is true, men do enjoy the priveleges of being in a relationship just for the sex, but then again there are a lot of men that enjoy sex without having to be in a relationship. Also, there are a lot of people who do use you for your money too. You can never really know what your going to get in a person. Even people who have been married for 30 years can still get the shock of their lives when their husband/wife decides to suddenly leave them. You are right about a lot of things; the thing is that relationships are a part of life. Even people who are just friends........and I mean regular friends you have in school (boys with boys, girls with girls, etc.) even they have issues and decide not to be friends anymore for whatever reason. Employers fire employees for dissatisfaction, teachers fail students. Everyone has a role in some way and those relationships will be a part of life whether you like it or not. The important thing is to learn from your experiences. I am a grown woman and have had numerous relationships before finding "the one." Even though I went through a lot of heartache and bad times, I think the experiences I had in previous relationships helped me to know exactly the type of man I didn't want and the type of characteristics I wanted my future husband to have. As for the being in a relationship just for sex is totally up to the partner. If someone pressures you to have sex and you don't want to, then don't. If they leave you because you don't want to have sex, then they probably weren't worth it in the first place. Being in a relationship is really supposed to be joyful. Relationships can really be good if they start for the right reasons. Often people begin relationships because they meet while they are enjoying common interests. For example, people who work out, people who play musical instruments, people who volunteer for the same cause, etc. When you share common interests, it's easy to start a relationship and build on it. While being in a relationship it's important to remain an individual and still have your own life, your interests, your own independence, etc. When your life becomes all about your partner and you forget about your family, your friends, your hobbies, etc. that is when you feel devastated when you break up. You feel like you put so much into your relationship and for what? The definition of a relationship is a connection or similarity between two or more things. So you have a connection with someone you can relate to, but you don't become dependent on them to give you self worth. Relationships only work when you can remain two separate people who come together and can offer one another ways to build on the relationship, can introduce new ideas/experiences to one another and can challenge one another to explore themselves or eachother. Being in a relationship is about enjoying life and sharing that enjoyment with another person. If everyone anticipated a break up, they wouldn't attempt to begin a relationship in the first place. But if you do think like that, then you will never experience anything, you will never let anyone in and you will never know how great life can be when you are surrounded with people you love and who love you.

Answer 4

Relationships do help you come out stronger even though there are some that are really crappy. But I think the main reason for wanting to be in a relationship also is because humans are social by nature and do not want to be lonely. One of my good friends told me that too that most people are afraid of being lonely which is why lots of people tend to move too quickly in romantic relationships and end up breaking up unfortunately.

Answer 5

I mean I guess it's all apart of being a helpless romantic?



Think about it, do you want to grow old alone? Maybe you do, but that can all change if you meet the right person, which they say "you just know" when you meet them.



Also relationships are learning experiences, you get to share your life with someone and, learn from each other, help each other, experience a family together..there are lots of pros! But like anything else there are cons..But if you find the right person, the pros shall out weigh the cons.



Don't stress yourself out about it though.

Answer 6

I've never been in a relationship, but it seems like you get so many wonderful things from being in a relationship. You get someone you can count on, someone to be intimate with, a best friend, someone to take care of, someone to take care of you, etc. It serves many purposes and it's a two-way street. If I were normal then I would totally try to be in a relationship with someone. There is sometimes heartbreak, but that's possible in any type of relationship. It just seems like there's so much potential for happiness in a relationship.

Answer 7

It's only pointless if you're not it with the wrong person. If you find the perfect person for you, you're soul mate, I guarantee you it will all make sense. If you find that person you won't have to worry about what it's like when it's over. Don't write off relationships just because you haven't found true love yet because one day you'll understand.

Answer 8

I've gotten my heart broken a few times. It was worth it every single time.



That's why.