Question:
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder?
brendan.farrugia
2009-03-07 03:08:46 UTC
My psychologist believes I have obsessive compulsive dissorder in the form of fearing homosexuality. When I was about 8 my dad said that having three sisters would turn me gay and that's stuck with me.

I remember when I was young whenever my sisters said "that guy is hot" i would get anxious because I was scared I would agree with them. I've been fine for the last few years because I had a girlfriend who I was in love with. But after a messy break up and a few hook ups to move on I woke up one day and something had clicked on that was saying "**** am i gay"

From there it's become much more realistic, I started putting thoughts about guys into my head to see if I liked them and basically the more I did this the more comfortable I became with it.

I have to keep fighting these thoughts because gay is not me, before this the gayest thought i have had was 'that bloke is good looking' or 'that guy has a good body' but nothing more

I've had sexual relations with a girl, never had thoughts about guys, and have always been attracted to girls.. so what happened?

Now i look at every guy and think something gay, and I know it has become obsession.

But I don't know how to go about this because if i'm gay i can't just deny it.

Furthermore as far as the OCD goes, if thoughts about guys come into my head i often say certain things over and over such as 'you're not gay' or 'don't get aroused' and sometimes i pray as well.


What do I do?
Am I gay?
Five answers:
Lillzz, *
2009-03-07 03:29:38 UTC
You aren't gay! you're just scared of becoming gay. don't worry! if you were gay you'd know it by now. have a nice life :)
bekz
2009-03-07 12:02:49 UTC
Stop fearing it for a start and stop paying that psychologist alot of money for telling you what you know you already have. Narrowed down they are obsessive thoughts.



The thoughts and mind are the mechanisms that drives the body into action so stop giving those thoughts power. Switch the power off, pull the plug out and put it into another channel. Plug it into the American pagent Queens or boxing just change your thinking habit. What you think..... you are.



If you are gay so what, there's nothing wrong with it but the only way you gonna find out is by trying it. Go somewhere where no one knows you.





Good luck
micheleann62
2009-03-07 11:30:18 UTC
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To me that diagnosis is questionable but I am just talking educated guess, maybe your psych knows other symptoms you have that he diagnosed you with OCD



I think you are simply relying on the inner wounded child to make decisions for you on your sexuality and your fears of it. I would be more apt to try to work with you on the fact that some destructive parenting from your father caused your reactions at a very young impressionable age and they have developed into a disorder of their own. I hope you will consider a second opinion and look for another psychologist, one who works with abused people because your dad was mentally abusive to say such a thing. After all it wasn't just a behavior you were doing that could be changed. He was altering your self esteem over something you had no power over.

Please give your self positive affirmations rather than negative affirmations.

"I am alright as I am." "God made me, just right"



I am suggesting to change your focus from figuring it out to simply being you. Continue to date women, admire other men, (very common in the straight world) and when you admire another man picture yourself letting the thought drop into the ocean and become fish food.

Do this every time for about 90 days. I don't know but your perspective could change with this formula. God bless you and please don't stress out. Still get a second opinion
2009-03-07 11:40:50 UTC
According to the Expert Consensus Guidelines for the Treatment of obsessive-compulsive disorder, behavioral therapy (BT), cognitive therapy (CT), and medications are first-line treatments for OCD. Psychodynamic psychotherapy may help in managing some aspects of the disorder, but there are no controlled studies that demonstrate effectiveness of psychoanalysis or dynamic psychotherapy in OCD



Behavioral therapy

The specific technique used in BT/CBT is called exposure and ritual prevention (also known as "exposure and response prevention") or ERP; this involves gradually learning to tolerate the anxiety associated with not performing the ritual behavior. At first, for example, someone might touch something only very mildly "contaminated" (such as a tissue that has been touched by another tissue that has been touched by the end of a toothpick that has touched a book that came from a "contaminated" location, such as a school.) That is the "exposure". The "ritual prevention" is not washing. Another example might be leaving the house and checking the lock only once (exposure) without going back and checking again (ritual prevention). The person fairly quickly habituates to the anxiety-producing situation and discovers that their anxiety level has dropped considerably; they can then progress to touching something more "contaminated" or not checking the lock at all—again, without performing the ritual behavior of washing or checking.



Exposure ritual/response prevention has been demonstrated to be the most effective treatment for OCD. It has generally been accepted that psychotherapy, in combination with psychotropic medication, is more effective than either option alone. However, more recent studies have shown no difference in outcomes for those treated with the combination of medicine and CBT versus CBT alone.[40]



Recently it has been reported simultaneous administration of D-Cycloserin (an antibiotic) substantially improves effectiveness of Exposure and Response prevention.





Medication

Medications as treatment include selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) such as paroxetine (Seroxat, Paxil, Xetanor, ParoMerck, Rexetin), sertraline (Zoloft, Stimuloton), fluoxetine (Prozac, Bioxetin), escitalopram (Lexapro), and fluvoxamine (Luvox) as well as the tricyclic antidepressants, in particular clomipramine (Anafranil). SSRIs prevent excess serotonin from being pumped back into the original neuron that released it. Instead, serotonin can then bind to the receptor sites of nearby neurons and send chemical messages or signals that can help regulate the excessive anxiety and obsessive thoughts. In some treatment-resistant cases, a combination of clomipramine and an SSRI has shown to be effective even when neither drug on its own has been efficacious.



Benzodiazepines are also used in treatment. It's not uncommon to administer this class of drugs during the "latency period" for SSRIs or as synergistic adjunct long-term. Although widely prescribed, benzodiazepines have not been demonstrated as an effective treatment for OCD and may be habit-forming in those with a history of substance abuse.



Serotonergic antidepressants typically take longer to show benefit in OCD than with most other disorders which they are used to treat, as it is common for 2–3 months to elapse before any tangible improvement is noticed. In addition to this, the treatment usually requires high doses. Fluoxetine, for example, is usually prescribed in doses of 20 mg per day for clinical depression, whereas with OCD the dose will often range from 20 mg to 80 mg or higher, if necessary. In most cases antidepressant therapy alone will only provide a partial reduction in symptoms, even in cases that are not deemed treatment-resistant. Much current research is devoted to the therapeutic potential of the agents that effect the release of the neurotransmitter glutamate or the binding to its receptors. These include riluzole, memantine, gabapentin (Neurontin) and lamotrigine (Lamictal).



Low doses of the newer atypical antipsychotics olanzapine (Zyprexa), quetiapine (Seroquel), ziprasidone and risperidone (Risperdal) have also been found to be useful as adjuncts in the treatment of OCD. The use of antipsychotics in OCD must be undertaken carefully, however, since, although there is very strong evidence that at low doses they are beneficial (most likely due to their dopamine receptor antagonism), at high doses these same antipsychotics have proven to cause dramatic obsessive-compulsive symptoms even in those patients who do not normally have OCD. This can be due to the antagonism of 5-HT2A receptors becoming very prominent at these doses and outweighing the benefits of dopamine antagonism. However antidepressant mirtazapine which is a 5-HT2A antagonist has shown to be of benefit to OCD patients[43]. Another point that must be noted with antipsychotic treatment is that SSRIs inhibit the chief enzyme that is responsible for metabolising ant
2009-03-07 11:14:32 UTC
"few hook ups to move on"



Oh, you poor victim of the 21st century pseudo-myth that the best way to get over someone is to sleep with someone else.



Oh, you poor thing.



Quite frankly, i think you should take better care of what's inside your head and not what's inside your balls.


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