How would you react?????!?

Question

I am a freshman girl in high school and am really into art of all kinds (I.e. music, painting, drawing, and poetry). So I was in an art class with a really nice teacher and he and I have become close. I have a notebook that I write poems in because I am often depressed and it helps me get my feelings into words. When I was five to when I was seven I was raped by a man I was supposed to trust. It really hurt me psych-wise, emotionally and physically. In my poems I often write about it or death. So I accidentally left the book in he art teachers room and she kept it for me since she knew it was mine. She didn't read it then but when she came to give I to me she said, "I didn't know if you wanted me to read it or if you left it here." Then I thought about how I would feel if she read it. I don't mind, but I was just thinking about her reaction. After class I asked her if he would like to read my poems and she said yes. So I gave her the book and asked her if she would tell anyone. She said only if I was gonna hurt myself or someone else. My parents know about me being raped and stuff so it's not like she would tell them. But teachers, or anyone I guess, what would you do if you read a students poems about rape? I also included one f bomb, so would you be surprised? Would you try to talk to me about it? What do you think will happen?

*sorry for typos I'm on a phone.

Answer 1

First I would like to say that you are a brave young lady to admit such a tragic moment in your early life. as for your question based on what you told me I would think if your poems has a lot of references towards rape she might be professionally obligated as a teacher to ask if your poems reflect on you personally. as for someone like me I think I would have a good talk with you about it since poems are created by your inner thoughts. but thats just me though because I always am concerned for my friends if they were ever dealing with any problems.

Answer 2

Teachers and others in leadership positions are Mandated Reporters. I think you just set yourself up for possible intervention; once again you may feel betrayed by someone who has power in your life.



Tell your parents so they are prepared. If the person who harmed you was not exposed, it's about time.



This happened to me too and I waited to my thirties to get help and actively sort through how it has tainted my life.



If your teacher does not do her job, she does not have your best interest, but has lowered herself either because she is a coward, (these things get messy) or because she is more concerned with being 'cool' with her student.



I'm sorry all this has happened to you, not pitying, but with the belief that you have been very brave before and will need more of the same soon.

Answer 3

I think somethings wrong with you. You seem to like this teacher and this teacher you described her as being a woman and then either you typo and wrote he as a mistake or you meant to write it like that for us to wonder. I think you are a very intelligent girl. You know exactly what you are doing and you want this teacher to notice you or to help you or to do something to help you. Your very intelligent. If you wrote that you were raped and I read it I would probably not mentioned it to you unless you mentioned it to me in person. As a teacher I would have to show you that I respect your privacy and would try to help you indirectly. It really depends on your age and what your poem said because if this happened to you over 2 years ago. I know if I were to report it to the police or to the proper authorities it would be a waste of time and it may cause an extra burden on you and would want to cause the least embarrassment and burden to you. Lets suppose it happened within the 2 years I would contact the proper authorities and ask them how I can help them help you. The proper authorities will probably come to speak to you either at our school or at home and it will be up to what you say to them and what they want to do to help you. If it was after the 2 years. I would try to help you within the time frame that I have you as a student. I would give you either directly or indirectly to all my students advice on where to seek help, speak to all my class about help phone numbers and laws. There is a law in which an adult should not take street justice but should seek to help a person regardless of age.

I think if I were your teacher I would probably talk to you first and ask you if its a true poem or one that you made up. If you told me it was made up and it was a good poem I would recommend you for a scholarship from these organizations that help people. If you told me it was real I would ask you if you want to speak to the school counselor if you say no. I would ask you what would you like to happen. If you tell me you want to move away to a safe place I would seek that type of help for you. If you tell me you want that person who hurt you punished. I would go to the police and speak to them. If you tell me you want to hurt yourself. I would say no.. please finish being my student and when you finish being my student then if you still want then we can talk about it some more. Yes, I would flunk you, if I had too. Just to keep you safe. I might brain storm with other teachers to see if any one has any solutions but I would not tell them your name unless I need too. A teacher has the responsibility to bring out the best in their students. If the teacher you chose has not given you or the class any advice within a week it may mean she did not read it because a teacher has a lot of grading work to do each day and would not read someones diary or scrap book. If you asked the teacher to read it and they do not know how to help you or do not want to help you then you give the notebook to another teacher. One of them will help you. You may have to knock on many doors but one of them will help you. Let me say that one of your parents may help you, if your mother hurt you and you want to move away then ask your father for this. If your father hurt you, then ask your mother for help and if they do not want to help you.. Ask a relative and if they don't want to help you ask a teacher, a school counselor. Parents are meant to help their children all the time. Sometimes, there maybe nothing they can do to help you. So you can either meditate or ask God to help you. Not enough.. then ask the police and if one says no, you ask another. Sometimes a man can help you and sometimes a woman can help you. We live in a tough world. You have to learn to trust someone. Don't take the full burden of worries. Lay them on your friends, and God if you believe in him. Don't Worry.