I'm at a crossroads and have no idea what do with my life.?

Question

I just need to vent to you guys, and thanks for reading. I'm in the Navy stationed 2500 miles away from home. I'm out in 6 months and am at a crossroads in my life and have no idea which direction to take. I am not in a very meaningful relationship to me. I have a g/f you could say and for the first few months it was amazing and it has gotten to the point where I realize it just isn't for me. I'm from KY and stationed in Washington State. There was a reason I left KY and every time I go home to visit I am reminded of the reasons. I don't want to live in Washington after the Navy because I've been there and am ready for a new chapter in my life. The military will pay for a bachelors degree but I have no idea where I want to go, or what I want to do. What do I do with my life when I have no idea where I want to be, or what I want to do wit my life and have only 6 months to decide. Like I said, there is no girl keeping or leading me to one place. I seem to get into these relationships where I put everything into it and don't get what I want or expect from them. Perhaps I'm too picky and I realize this, I wish there was something I could do about it. I am intrigued by the city of Boston and have thought about schooling there. But again, I have no idea what I should do. How do you decide what you want to do with your life? This grown-up thing really snuck up on me. Thanks again for reading, I know I'm probably just whining but it helped to know a few people might read this. Have a great holidays guys.

Answer 1

I find that the best thing to do is to determine what your dream is. Where to you see yourself in 2 years or 5 years. Do you want a house, drive nice cars, go on vacations, start your own business etc? Close your eyes and invision yourself there. Imagine every detail. Set that as your long term goal. The ask yourself, "What do I need to get me there? How much money do I need to earn to achieve my goal? What kind of a job do I need to earn that kind of money? Do I have the skills and education to get that kind of job? If not, how do I get them?" Talk to school or career counselor for starters. These will be your short term goals that will lead you to your long term goal. Make your self a plan, chart out a time line that you will give yourself to accomplish both the short and long term goals. Mark them off as you meet them. Remember, most of us are not working in our dream jobs, I would rather be doing something else, but these jobs are paying our bills and getting us the lifestyle we want. Hope this helps.

Answer 2

Hey it's alright everyone gets stuck at crossroads. For me it's often the one way ones.. hah ha.



Since you're in the Navy don't they provide some sort of job for you to do? Have you thought about going to another branch like the Air Force or something? I heard they're pretty good.



As for city to live in.. I suggest New York. It's great place to start afresh and chances are you'll meet new interesting friends. Look up some of the schools there and you don't have to decide on which major to go into..you can declare undecided and pick later on. Don't stress about this because the more you do the more you'll feel confused.



Best of luck and congrats...you get to leave in 6 months!!

Answer 3

An easy way (well kind of) to figure out what to do is to list the things you are good at. Also list the things you like to do or think you would like to do, hobbies, skills, etc. Are you good with hands, like artsy stuff, and so on. There are websites where you can take a test of sorts that will list possible career paths.



Often the answer is right in front of us. If you like drawing and computers - graphic design could be an option. I would just look at what you like to do, what you're good at and go from there. Boston is an awesome area and there are lots of good schools in the area.



Here's a link that lists colleges around Boston...good luck.

http://www.bostonvisit.com/college/collegeprofiles/index.shtml

Answer 4

have a great holidays too... start off with what type of setting, city or maybe you want "more grass" as my step-dad says when i visit colleges in the city lol... next try an figure out what city your more attracted to (and by the way boston is an amazing city) after you figure out some cities you know that you like visit them, and see what kind of vibe you get from them... hope i helped i want to major in voice so i can't really help with whatever you want to major in unless it's voice lol

Answer 5

First step, re-enlist.

Hehehehehe.

No seriously, go to college, get the degree, broaden your horizons a bit.

It's much better than accelerating your life :)



When in doubt, choose a fine arts major.

Also, is it just me, or does washington state rain a lot.

and mc williams afb is much cooler than any navy bases up there right??

meh... at least you guys get some cool sigint buildings.

Answer 6

the 1st element i assumed-approximately as quickly as I examine your question became the poem "the line not Taken" by ability of Robert Frost. i don't think of the entire poem needs to be there, yet perchance the final verse. "I would be telling this with a sigh 2 street diverged in a timber, and that i-- I took the single much less traveled by ability of And that has made each and every of the version." the different decision must be the 1st line. "2 roads diverged in a yellow timber". in simple terms bear in techniques that in spite of you elect, it incredibly is permanant.

Answer 7

i would say if you want to take the education and than backpack around untill u get what ur looking for



or if u think you can get back to school wenever u can just start now



cheers



p.s. that whole grownup thing is my worst fear im 16 and np happy holidays

Answer 8

well, for me, i never knew what i wanted to do with my life. until just recently, at the age of 34.



so now i am back in school going for a brand new career. its very tough to do this at my age, but i new in my heart and soul that i HAD to make this choice.



make a list of things that are important to you in life. then go for a career/ area to live/ girlfriend/ etc......that fits in with your life goals.



good luck and Merry Christmas.

Answer 9

you should take an aptitude test to see what job you'd be best at and it will give you possibilities of what to do. If you have interest in one then you can go to school for it.

Answer 10

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