Do people generally all have the same amount of problems or is each person different in this?

Question

I find that when I talk to people they usually have a health problem and they might have a career or love life or some kind of relationship problem. If people were surveyed and had to write down the amount of problems they have would there be an amount such as 5 serious problems which would be true for most people or are there people who have 1 problem or none or 100's. If people have a certain amount such as 5, do they tend to have that many problems their whole life or is this all in their mind? Do people see problems in themselves that another person wouldn't see as a problem. Are we all the same in the amount of problems we have or are some people much more challenged than others. Most people think someone with a handicapt would have more problems or someone who is brought up in poverty yet living in the USA where they could get arrested for being homeless. Are there any studies on this subject. I am working with a group of people who have problems & I wonder if we all just decided we were OK, would the problems go away. I remember when I was younger I did that & I wonder if I was living in denial & it was unhealthy or if that is the best way to live. I had a lot of good things happen at that time. what do you think? Please give deep answers not the kind I can find in a fortune cookie.

Answer 1

Often people think they have serious problems until they consider what others are dealing with are facing.

an old truism is that if we all put our problems in a pile and where allowed to choice somebody else's pile of problems we would most often end up choosing our own back.

It is healthiest is recognize that all persons have problems but to focus our attention on the blessings that we also have.

Even in Haiti - there are persons counting their blessings today - they are thankful for the family member that also survived or for the meager aid that has been provided them. Most of us have so much more to be thankful for but let ourselves become distracted by our problems.

Answer 2

I think it depends on your age and where you are in your life. Either way though there are always issues in our lives or things that go wrong or deaths in the family.

Everyone struggles and everyone has troubles.

What matters is how you handle the stresses in your life. Do you make it into a positive thing or do you make it into a negative thing?



I have a schizophrenic family member and since they were in their teens until the time they were in their 20's they were struggling a lot. I feel like they never get a break in their life. They need something good and positive in their life and I always question why did this person have to get schizophrenia? They were a good person who and they were always picked on as a child? When will they get a break from the stress of this life? They didn't ask for this to happen and neither did my family. I just don't understand.

Answer 3

Everyone have a problem and its amazing how everyone have the same amount of problems. And that is the truth. Even though they don't have a disease, they might have psychological problem or nager issue. Problem you can see in a person and problem you can't see. Everyone have problems everyday, but no one have more problems than other.



You ever wonder why you never gone a day without any problems? No one is perfect or have a perfect life and thats a fact for sure even when you lving the American Dream or filthy rich.

Answer 4

Different people have different amounts of problems for sure. There is also a difference in the way people see problems. I like to see problems as opportunities instead. It may be an understatement or it may be a form of denial. It has been proven that optimistic people are more likely to overcome their problems than pessimists so I am going to stick with my euphemism for now.



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Answer 5

It's impossible to count the number of problems that a person has but I do believe that some problems tend to lead to greater pain than others.

Answer 6

people can have lots of problems one year, and few the next. holmes & rahe found that the number and severity of stressful life events was strongly related to health problems in later years, so i guess that problems really do have an effect.