Why don't I want to pursue my passion anymore?

Question

I have been a musician for most of my life, I over analyse every note, every mix, every structure change, every thing!

I'm still only young (20years) but I just don't feel the need to practice guitar anymore. I never want to listen to music, I don't want to start bands anymore.
I used to play guitar with my best friends every day, all day. Now I don't even want to play by myself anymore.

It started a few months after I got my job, but I got the job so I could a new guitar and other instruments but now that I can afford it, I don't want to purchase these items.
Can anyone explain? It is getting me down.

Answer 1

If you don't enjoy it, I think you should actually quit it. I know this is hard, and your situation really relates to me. I am very good at drawing, and I wanted to be an architect in the future. But after noticing what might happen in the future, and realising that I hated drawing all those construction drawings, I quitted art and design and decided to work on something I actually enjoy doing.

When you tell your mum, you need to let her listen to your opinions and why you want to quit. Then she would understand why. Ballet has a short career life, so maybe you should pursue something you are more interested in.

Ballet could still be a hobby, you don't have to quit it completely.

Like you described, since you don't like ballet so much, I really think you should quit working so hard on it. And work hard on something that will help support your future. I'm not saying ballet can't support your future life, but it's that you should do something you like. Not something you hate and dislike. what I am working towards to is what I want to do in the future and is what I like. it should be the same with you.

Talk to your mum through it. She would understand and allow you to quit. You could still take ballet, but obviously, don't work so hard it. Make it a hobby and extra curricular thing. It's still quite good and a elegant thing.



Good luck and wish you the best for the future ;)

Answer 2

Really? I doubt that very much so. Think about it, as you've said all your life you've been a musician. Now think about this... how many months or weeks have you been without that passion? Compare that to how long you've been a musician. 3 measly months or 1 year does not compare to your 20 or so years. 20 years you've been a musician, how does that even compare? I've had bouts like that too, where all the motivation dries up and you feel as if you can't create anything worth a darn. You get scared, even though you're reassured somewhat that you've created something amazing before in the past, but you feel as if the magic that was around has dried up... it's as if it's gone.



I'm a budding artist, I'm 17 years old. I always get those dry spells and I always wonder If drawing's going to let me go and be out of my life forever, but somehow It always comes back to me... the longest I've gone is four weeks, and I tell you... I got so depressed that It felt as if a part of me was missing, because drawing is who I am, In fact it's the only thing I'm truly good at. There are times where I hate my drawings, I don't believe what other people say... and I want to let go of drawing because of all the pain it causes me, but drawing is like that girlfriend/boyfriend you can't be without, the one that's annoying but has that endearment that makes you fight for her/him.



So what I'm trying to say is that, Music is apart of who you are. Even if it leaves you for a couple of years, you can't deny the fact that you started the first module of your life dedicated to music... so now it's engrained in you and it is the essence of who you are. Your music will come back to you. You're only 20 years old, you've got years ahead of you. Music will come back to you, but it seems as if you've reached the point where you need to give the music a break. Give it a break and you'll realize life is empty without it, you'll appreciate it more and it will come back to you. I promise.

Answer 3

My first guess was that you are depressed, but I think your are just specifically overwhelmed with life at the moment. You possibly became overwhelmed when you realized you needed a job to afford instruments. You are now working, your focus has switched over to your job, and now you are beginning to lose interest in music. In the end, I guess we can say you do have minor depression, but I'd say that you are more overwhelmed than depressed. I suggest you just sit back today and think about your life. Turn on a band that you used to love and just start thinking about where it all started and why you feel you lost interest in music. If you do start to feel sad and like you want to cry, it's probably best if you find a therapist to talk to. I'm not saying so you can be diagnosed with depression and be treated for it, just so you can talk to someone about your sense of being overwhelmed in life and feeling lost in regards to not knowing what you want to do anymore.

Answer 4

It's called growing up.