Do we have a chance of getting married?

Question

I am a 23 year old Irish American girl who graduated from UC Davis earlier this year...and I am so ridiculously in love with my guy best friend! He is a 21 year old Korean American junior at Stanford...he's so calm, patient, quiet, understanding, and even a bit cute. I don't think any person has ever been there for me more than he has. There's so many things I could list as to why I love him so much: amazing pianist, smart (obviously), and so socially awkward that it's almost adorable. :D

But at the same time...I feel really awkward about the whole idea of marriage. Our age difference might seem small, but I've always been kinda like an older sister figure to him...teaching him things, exposing him to different things as he got older (like drinking and sex -- yeah, I'm not proud of it now -_-)...and I'd sometimes would scold him, like he was my younger sibling. I frankly feel that sometimes he gets very intimidated by me. I have a hunch that he likes me though, because when I asked him (in a very joking manner), "HEY WHAT WOULD IT BE LIKE IF WE GOT MARWEED?" he turned really red and started giggling (I've NEVER seen him giggle like that before).

Ah...but I've made my share of mistakes, maybe too big and many. I've always went out partying, and I got a boyfriend at the end of my junior year at UC Davis -- more for social reasons than romantic -- and we ended up going to parties and having sex all the time (we broke up earlier this week)...and my best friend knows too because I always tell him everything about my life.

So simply put...I've been the dirty party girl and he's been this wonderful guy. I don't think I could live without him in my life. He gives the most reassuring hugs and NEVER judges me like my parents and friends always do. I love how he always says, "It's okay." I want him in my life...do you think we still have a chance? Did I screw up too badly? I don't want to start a life with anyone except for him. I'm going to see him at church this Sunday, and I'm wondering if I should say something...

Answer 1

:D its cool. like, me and my boyfriend are like brother and sister. sounds wrong but you know what i mean. im like the same as you said you were, where like, you scold him and teach him things and stuff, and kinda play around with him. me and my bf have always been that way and we have a great time. cause were boyfriend and girlfriend, best friends AND brother and sister. lol. that sounds so weird but yea lemme just clarify that were not blood related. lol. im white and hes mexican/chinese. :P but yea...if he makes you happy and hes happy with you too then you should totally take it to the next level!!! i dont think you screwed up too badly. the only way you could screw up badly is if you dont keep him in your life!!!!

Answer 2

You shouldn't be too hard on yourself.. it is better you partied and met guys now while you are still in no really committed deep relationship, so you didn't really cause anyone any pain.. only to yourself perhaps. This young man, whom you admire so much, he would never think badly of you because he is your friend.. and we love our friends and we all know that nobody is perfect.. we all have weaknesses and strenghts.. A friend will never sit in judgment.. and a friend will accept you as you are and love you for who you are, which is what he is doing. This seems a wonderful friendship. He is always there for you. I believe that I would not want to risk losing that friendship by saying something to him about feelings that involve a romantic relationship. It doesn't happen often in life that one meets a person and has such a great connection with.. who understands you without words.. he is a friend who is very valuable.. such friendships are rare.. I would not endanger it. If this friend knows you so well then you can try to use subtle body language to let him know that your feelings for him go deeper than a ''deep and profound friendship'' he seems the kind of person who can look into your heart .. and he will know what you feel if you show it somehow without words.. and then I would leave it at that and would not pressurize him.. because lovers come and go sometimes. but a friendship that is build on such a solid foundation can last a lifetime.. just show through body language and little actions that your feelings are deeper for him than just friendship.. without being too obvious and maybe embarrass him. If he feels the same about you he will be able to read the signs as you are a very special person to him so he can't miss them.

Answer 3

haha no...



it just sounds like u have a super huge crush on this guy...maybe u should wait a while first so u can recover from the relationship u just ended...and then maybe u could consider dating first....for atleast a year or so



definitely dont jump into marriage....it involves so much more than just liking his personality u know? u have to really know him and understand the person he is and really consider spending the rest of your life with him. its really a big deal.



i dont mean to discourage you but it just sounds like u should really think about this some more

Answer 4

i dont understand yet somebody already mentioned style of what I had in suggestions..if your intense college bf/gf this is in all risk a mistake through fact meaning you in no way tried to be sure what replaced into available and you settled for a individual top away instead of being affected person and notice what else the international has to furnish. in terms of your scneario, the possibility of gettn married if the two in the relationship dont pass faraway from one yet another, then the possibility is intense however the prospect of happiness is low.

Answer 5

You may have a chance at a dating. Asking if you have a chance at getting married is kind of far-fetched when you havent even dated him.

Answer 6

in my experience the most solid relationships begin with a strong friendship.

talk to him, i wonder if he just might be waiting for you!!~!

Answer 7

Go for it.



i think he's ready to be past your party girl phase if you are.



GOOD LUCK!

Answer 8

You need to tell him how you feel. You will always regret it if you don't.