Not accepted by my age group?

Question

I'm not looking for any negative criticism or insults or name calling. I'm looking for advice. If you can't give me any good advice, don't answer this question.

Most people in my age group don't accept me as well as younger folks do. Sure I can strike up a conversation with my age group, but when wanting to date people my own age group, i'm normally unsuccessful. I believe it has something to do with my height and youthful appearance. I'm 19 years old, 5 foot 3 inches, and skinny. A lot of people tell me I look a lot younger than 19.

Whenever I get around younger teens, It seems to be more successful, talking with them and hanging out with them. I have no desire to have a relationship with anyone younger than 17.

I'll have 14, 15, and 16 year olds who want to hangout with me and date me but I'm not interested in younger people; it's just not right...

I can't understand why I'm more successful with younger people than with people my own age group. I'd never have any type of sexual relationship with a younger person, that's inappropriate and taking advantage of someone. I just want to have a healthy relationship with someone my own age.

What should I do? :(

Answer 1

I think the friends your age are judging you because of your stature, because visually you are smaller so they automatically think you are not as smart. It may not be intentional, it's just that teens usually are not willing to take the time to get to know a person but rather make snap judgments based on appearance. Your younger friends accept your size and adore you because you seem very mature to them. I'm glad to hear you have a good sense of values when it comes to dating the younger girls, cause like you said it's just not right. I wish you the best of luck and hope you can find some intelligent people to hang out with that don't judge you. Good Luck.

Answer 2

I had the exact same problem:( turned out that i just never grew up lol, never wanted to grow up either, the only way i fixed it though, was to change my whole personality, get rid of the old childish me that love to joke and jump around and substitute for a new mature persona, that drank coffee and cared about politics and stuff lol (but i really don't) XD

Answer 3

Relationships are not bound by time nor are they built overnight. Just because you failed a few times, or several times, it does not mean that it will be permanent. Love is found through searching for who is right. Those who can not accept who you are are not the ones right for you. Only time will tell. Be a bit patient but also open abuot who you are. Be brave! have self-esteem!

Good luck, best wishes

Answer 4

Call Loveline! Dr.Drew can help you. o: