Question:
Is it impossible to go a day without judging myself?
messimee
2010-12-14 18:42:41 UTC
I've become a chronic "self-judger". To the point where I don't remember what it feels like to be myself. My mind is that occupied, all day long, even in my own presence, about my every move - judging to see if it's all of the labels others have given me which I've turned on myself - funny, confident, creative, genuine, etc etc. It's obviously become a preoccupation to think this way. But when I abandon the thoughts, I still don't feel like myself. I suppose it's because I'm still thinking somehow (perhaps subconsciously). If I never started doing this, I could only imagine the type of person I would have still been, the types of experiences I would have had... For instance I'm naturally a BIG people person. I didn't realize how much of a people person I was till this thinking hit me, this fear of not being myself. It's been so long since I've been that way and truly myself, all the time. I hope I haven't lost my interpersonability...cause it sure feels like it (out of fear I'm sure). I would like to feel like myself again and have all of my goals and everything back in alignment... I used to have so much forward moving energy, used to really enjoy helping others... now the energy is so negatively focussed I'm terrified of myself...Anyway, as you can see, all of these thoughts and more collide in my mind all day long. I'm never free to be, and I would know if I was because I feel differently, I feel and can recognize a shift in paradigm. What do you think?
Six answers:
Hahahahaha... ^_^
2010-12-14 20:02:56 UTC
Haha... yes, it is, trust me. The first step is to worry a bit less about it - your mental image of a "non-judger" person is itself becoming an obstacle and is causing you to judge yourself even more.
2010-12-14 19:16:38 UTC
A lot of this simply comes from too much anxiety, and from normal teenage identity crises. The teenage identity crisis should be gone by the time you reach 18. If it doesn't, it might help to see a therapist. Same thing with the anxiety. It seems low key now. But if it gets worse, that can disrupt your life. Therapy is good at addressing anxiety.
leather mall
2010-12-14 23:16:42 UTC
It is better to judge your own self than to judge others

It is even better to watch your thoughts and not judge them whether they are good or bad. They are just thoughts.

It is even better to act and perform your duties in the world than just watch your thoughts.

This is the choice we all have to make every moment of our lives. And we almost always do what we enjoy the most.

So don't worry, you are enjoying what you are doing and doing what you are enjoying, that is judging your self.

Peace!
claptic
2010-12-15 08:53:34 UTC
Slay your thought maker.
Naguru
2010-12-14 18:50:40 UTC
I think it is possible if you want to.
2010-12-14 18:47:04 UTC
yup, i feel the same way too.


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