Ideas on how 2 fill a void BESIDES cigarettes, alcohol, relationships/s_e_x, drugs, partying, therapy, music?

Question

Broke up in December with bf of 3 years and now feeling sad and can't do my work as well as when I was in a relationship.
I have support from my best friend but it never really seems like enough, like Im missing the deep connection that only comes from an intimate relationship.
Therapy has not worked, I'm not depressed anyway and I do journaling and self-reflection and have goals. I am just missing that spark in life that just sort of makes you content/ satisfied/ zen and not in constant crave-mode. Like I am always needing these dopamine kicks because of this sort of emptiness / unexcitement.
Currently craving cigarettes and i do NOT want to kill myself!!!
Music is not impactful enough and I do not drink or do drugs or party.
Any healthy void-filler ideas?
I need to be able to reach a state again where these highs and lows arent causing me to do badly at work! I want to do really well in my career and these dopamine cravings are really hurting my performance cuz I am constantly getting distracted.
thanks in advance!!

Answer 1

Maybe if you had a new hobby of some kind then things wouldn't be so dull.

You could try to exercise. It sounds kind of lame and boring, but I just recently started to goof around on my Wii fit and now I just can't get enough. I have been tracking my calories online and logging my workouts. I know that it will eventually wear on me, but for now it is keeping me entertained.

Another alternative is to volunteer someplace. You will feel good about yourself and build connections with people who could really use your help.

Or...eat chocolate. Chocolate never fails the feelings meter.

Answer 2

I know how you feel. I have been there on more than one occasion. I used to fill the void with alcohol. I have realized I am an alcoholic! I quit smoking too. I used to fill the void with food too. Then I became overweight. I have a classic addictive personality. The best tool I believe to get that dopamine kick is to run. Running increases endorphins and in return gradually increases dopamine. They call it a "runners high". I love running. It gives me time to think and reflect on my day, set goals for tomorrow. Running outdoors is amazing! I love being outside and the sunshine increases vitamin D. Sunshine literally makes you less depressed. I suggest a gym only if you live in the extreme cold (im in Michigan! Brr!).They are stinky and full of germs and running outdoors is free! I can guarantee that you will have more daily energy and it never hurts to be healthy! Best of luck!

Answer 3

If you're free, go out of town, visit some new and interesting place even if it is a small village nearby. Lots of walking and getting tired is sometimes good medicine, as is a change of scenery.

You could also get involved in new projects if you are in school/college. Or take up a writing challenge, if you're upto it (since you like journalling) write yourself some short stories, or a novella (nanowrimo.org)



Channel your energies into productive areas, and you'll be happy! Spend lots of time with family, they're the best support :)

Answer 4

Channel your emotions into something positive, like your work or school life. Focus on excelling and nothing else.

Answer 5

Christ will fill the void in your life just ask Him to heal your hurt