Aww geez mate, i'm sorry to hear that you have such a toxic relationship with your mother and uncle ..... i really do feel for you as my mother also has the emotional capacity of a barracuda ..... people like that pure and simply need to be avoided as much as possible .... sadly we can't choose our family but we can choose how we live our lives ...... sounds to me like you have reached decision time ..... my two cents worth is that the sooner you get your tushy out of there the better off you will be ........ abuse, be it physicial, emotional, verbal or psychological is still terribly damaging to your peace, health and vitality........ the easiest way i found to deal with a mother who needs to control your every movement is simply to switch off emotionally and tell her NoThiNg ....... and i do mean nothing ...... be completely private in regard to your finances, emotions, professional life ....... pretty much resulting conversations are guarded and non informative .......... it sounds cruel and callous i know but this is about YoU and your own self preservation ....... start doing for yourself first ........... you simply reach a stage where you've had enough and need to start nourishing your own spirituality.
Don't hold a grudge against either your mom or uncle though .... let it go and forgive them for not being just what you expected ... don't let their misery and spite crush you by hanging on to it ....... instead feel sorry for them for only miserable sad people spread grief and sadness like that.
Be brave luv ... you can do it.... i believe in you ..... temper your words to them with kindness and compassion but only say what is necessary.... protect your vitality by not getting drawn into their negativity.
my mother took me in nearly 2 years ago with 3 young primary school children for six weeks of utter grief and spite and misery ...... she kicked me out and i ended up in a ramshackle ooooold tiny little weatherboard house for the past 18 months but at least it was mine ...... i tried at the start to maintain my empathy and total communication with her but she simply had and never has had any ReSpEcT for me or mine whatsoever ........ i mean to say, it was nothing for her to simply walk in the back door at anytime of the day or night ..... even walk straight into my bedroom when i was napping in the afternoon and start yelling at me for this that and the other ..... ima 45 mate ....... i'm a grown woman too .......... and that's what it all boils down to .......... there's no respect or empathy forthcoming from your mom ....... geez, i can so relate here ..... that's another reason i can't expose myself to my mom's presence more than once a month or more ........ all she ever does is batch and moan and complain about other people's shortcomings and cut them down and spread negativity and grief ........ misery luvs company ...... distance yourself from the pain and start living your life ..... stop treating your mom like your friend ....... friends don't abuse each other like that .......... sure you luv her cos she's your mom ...... but that doesn't mean you have to like her ...... that was my fatal mistake anyway .... i tried my whole life to be my moms friend ....... and unfortunately she just took all the energy i shared and gave nit in return.
Throw all your energy into your new job and occupy as much of your free time as possible doing things that you luv doing .... go dancing, go for a walk, a run on the beach, go to the library for quiet reading time .......... anything to keep you happy until you get out of there.
oh, and drink at least 8 glasses of water a day ........ and i'm not even half kidding here ...... you need water to clear brain frizz and to think clearly .... heck you need water for every single cellular function in your body mate ..... drink up.
Ditch as much processed sugar as you can too as it will only serve to stress an already stressed body ....... eat more wholegrains and cereals like organic brown rice too as they are chock full of B vitamins for healthy neural functioning and immunity and digestion ...... keep you regular mate ........ better out than in i reckon ...... eat more leafy and green vegies as well mate...... full of calcium and magnesium which work in tandem for neural health and of course bone, teeth and heart health .... chow down on lightly steamed broccolli, kale, chard, celery, buk choy....... feed your brain and reduce your stress levels ...... Soccrates said ... "Let Food Be Thy Medicine"...........;0)
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