Loneliness is sapping all my strength and motivation, need a good woman in my life but have no luck with them?

Question

I'm 22 and I'v been searching for a good kind hearted woman to love life with since I was Bout 14 and all these years I'v gotten more and more depressed and empty inside from having no luck with them, had girlfriends just not many and my longest relationship was a pitiful 6week and 3day lol. I have One true friend and she's great though before becoming best friends I did get friends zoned by her a few years back but she prefers the *** hole type of guys and I'm starting to think the only way to get a girl to be a dick and it's really just not me. I always get friend zoned and told I'm perfect and really sweet yet if I'm all these things, why the hell would you dump me?! :/ I don't do anything for my self and struggle to even when I really try, my loneliness has consumed me and I fear I'll never find someone and I'll just fade and rot away and no one will care. It eans the world to me to find somebody but yet if i did id get my hopes up for nothing because she's probz dump me fast and id get the same pish and no ones ever brutally honest so I'll never know what the huge turn off is about me.I guess i just want some advice on how to either pull my self together or gain advice on how other people with similar problems got by, all comments welcome and thanks for reading.

Answer 1

I stumbled upon a site that looked adolescent and unpleasant, and read some of it out of curiosity. The more I read, the more impressed I was.The most common and most damaging mistakes that good men fall into are addressed. The guy who runs the site is a sort of natural genius of the psychology of the male-female connection. Go, read, learn. Don't be put off by anything until you understand what he's saying. Go to 'Solve My Girl Problems'.

(I'm a woman, conventional and monogamous, good and kind hearted, with my husband for 22 years, married for 10. This site will not lead you astray. Don't be worried by the tone... Good luck!)



http://www.solvemygirlproblems.com/

Answer 2

For the record, you seem like a nice guy to me; I'm sure it's their loss rather than yours. I've learned that humans suffer because they cling to things. Like happiness. In your case happiness right now comes from having a girlfriend, and you're suffering because you're clinging to that idea of being in a relationship. Instead of looking at everything you've already achieved, everything you do have in your life, you want more. That's not just you, that's everyone. But things don't come if you just wish they'll come, quite often things come out of the blue. Someone will come into your life, I'm sure of it, asshole guys aren't worth it in the long run. But don't change yourself, because if someone does like your for that false image, you'll have to spend all your time with them with that fake personality, and it'll become exhausting. Another thing is, before you've tried, by saying she'll dump you fast is already setting yourself out for failure. Failure is an illusion, only you define it as an idea of failure. I guess what I'm trying to say is, don't do this to yourself and be the cause of your own unhappiness. You already have everything, appreciate it and look forward to the future. Keep the happiness in your life as number one, everything you don't have keep it in the back of your mind as a goal, not an empty space. In a way you already have it, time just needs to do it's part and bring it into the present. Best of luck

Answer 3

When in whatever you are doing and loving to do or dreaming to do or are supposed to do (must do) in your life for hopefully a better survival and better unfolding and corroborating love, you are more diligently working at building up, or more passionately adding up to, a better career and some great events and some good perhaps wonderful memories for a future, a good girl, a charming woman, might not avoid admiring what you are doing, seeing what you are good at, getting attracted at the good fellow that you seem to be. Thus the good kind-hearted woman might more daringly decide and be more in the nearby of you, perhaps also telling you that she admires your way of doing things, perhaps also asking if she can help you with something. Thus she will more frequently be in the nearby of you thus that the eyes of you two might meet more often and with a hope and glow of delicious things to happen.



Thus you might try and corroborate your own fiercer and more daring life. Thus you might try and be thinking that in your necessary interactions with others, in your interactive presence about others, you can be the good actor, you are the good actor, the braver co-pilot of your own life, the fiercer hardy more daring higher flying co-pilot unto your own future, unto your own destiny.



Then a good kind hearted woman, one who is yearning for a good future with her own loving hero, will certainly try and be co-working with you at building up, or much passionately adding up to, some great events and some good perhaps wonderful memories for a future; wonderful memories for the future of her with you!



Dear good friend of ours within the wider bounds of this great cyberspace, thus also you might try and layout the good style of you in your life while you are certain that the time of flowers sooner or later will come. Do also all the while have chances of lots great merry thoughtless laughs in the company of a delicious woman or more sublimely all on your own.